If DD goes into meltdown mode in the car, she has started unbuckling herself. It's a power issue for her, and I've tried as well as dh to help her understand the dangers of unbuckling, how we can get pulled over and get a ticket, etc. She says she "doesn't care" when she's in this state.
My sister died at the age of 15 because she wasn't buckled in a car and was tossed from the vehicle. Buckling up is a SERIOUS issue in our family (as I'm sure it is for other families), so I know she's acting out during her meltdowns and unbuckling because she knows she's not supposed to. After she's calm, she feels sorry. We talk about it often. Each time she promises she will not unbuckle anymore, yet cannot keep her promise.
She's been out of the 5-pt harness for a while, and now sits in a car buckled booster. I've considered getting another larger 5-pt harness, but she was able to unbuckle herself while still in it anyway. She is really good at buckles.
I've though about getting a lock for the seat belt. She hates the idea of not being able to buckle/unbuckle herself, and talking about solutions with her doesn't heed results. Again, she's sorry she does it, but as soon as she gets angry in the car, it's the first tactic she pulls out.
She doesn't unbuckle everytime. But at this point, we're at about 3 meltdowns per week in the car. I pull over as much as I can until she can calm down, but sometimes when I'm on the highway, it takes a minute to safely pull over. Not to mention, it can take a while to get her calm enough to sit back down, and sometimes, we just need to get somewhere.
Any ideas? Anybody else have this issue?
*edited to add/delete a few things from my original post
Edited by graye_pearl - 7/6/12 at 11:41pm