How many baby loss/child loss Mama's are in this DDC? « Back to Group Discussions

[MandyB]

I've noticed there are a few of us pregnant again after the loss of a child or baby, and was just curious how many of us are in this DDC?  Being pregnant this time, after losing my son, feels so different than my previous pregnancies!  I'm trying not to give in to all the anxieties and fears I seem to have developed since losing my little guy, because I really just don't want to put anymore stress on this baby, and I'd like to get back to a place where I trust that my baby will be healthy and everything will go ok, but find it tough at times.

Also, do you plan on having a hospital birth or home birth this time around?

We plan on having another home birth, but I am also seeing an OBGYN just so that insurance will pay for any prenatal testing, and a fetal echo to check for any congenital heart defects.  I need that reassurance this time around.

[livinzoo]

I had a blighted ovum last pregnancy.  My first pregnancy was a clomid IUI baby.  She is a active toddler now.
 

[Dakota1235]

My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum, 7 years ago, and although we have seen this baby's heartbeat it still doesn't seem like we will end up with a baby at the end.

I think my loss just brought home to me that every pregnancy doesn't end with a live baby. I'm trying to take this for what it is and planned to enjoy the time I am pregnant, although the misery of morning sickness means I haven't been enjoying it much at all, but I'm working on it.

[josie423]

I lost one very early before I got pregnant with my fourth. I'm sorry for your losses ladies! 

[Teles]

Originally Posted by Dakota1235 

My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum, 7 years ago, and although we have seen this baby's heartbeat it still doesn't seem like we will end up with a baby at the end.

I think my loss just brought home to me that every pregnancy doesn't end with a live baby. I'm trying to take this for what it is and planned to enjoy the time I am pregnant, although the misery of morning sickness means I haven't been enjoying it much at all, but I'm working on it.

I'm off and on with that thinking with this pregnancy too. My first (and only previous) pregnancy resulted in miscarriage at 7 weeks, so I'm pretty gun shy with this one. I've found that good results from blood tests buy me a few worry-free days and the ultrasound where we saw the heartbeat bought me a good 5 days of peace, but I generally come back around to worrying again. I'm now 9 weeks and decided that I simply can't wait another 11 weeks for my next ultrasound so I bought a doppler on ebay and I'm waiting (impatiently) for it to show up. I have really optimistic days, but since I've never actually had a successful pregnancy it's sometimes difficult to believe that I'll have a baby in February.

[Adaline'sMama]

My son passed away at 11 weeks to SIDS or "undetermined death". We knew right away that we wanted to tcc immediately and these babies were conceived on our first try. I feel so lucky that there are two and that it happened so quickly that it makes me terrified that it's too good to last

[gingernerdygirl]

This is my thirteenth pregnancy and I'm payingg it will be my sixth child.I find myself always worrying,alwaysover analyzing every twinge. I am very stressed about the possibility of another loss but I'm trying to relax...so much easier said than done.

[Momma41]

Thank you ladies for sharing. I cannot even fathom the losses some of you have had. Not that my experiences were not tragic but it changes my perspective. With every loss it was like my whole world came crashing down, and It was so hard to see the other side of the pain. It happened so many times, I could not understand. Still don't.  The time was not right? I learned lessons? I came out stronger on the other end?  Why did this happen?  Anyway, I appreciate your honestly. I am so thankful that we can support each other in this venue.

[Gray's Mommy]

This is my 6th pregnancy and we are blessed with 3 beautiful boys. I've lost two at week 14 and week 8.

[Cat77]

This is my second pregnancy, I lost my son at 17 weeks due to PPROM.  I was devastated.  I am focusing only on staying healthy and doing everything possible to make sure I do all that is in my power to keep this child safe and cooking for as long as possible.  All I can do is have faith and believe, and try to keep my stressing to a minimum as that doesn't help.

[lilysamsma]

This is pregnancy #4 for me. I had a loss at 7 weeks in between dd and ds two year ago.

[Brambleberry]

I've had one missed miscarriage, discovered at 10 weeks (baby measured 9.5w), with the D&C at 12.5 weeks.  It seems so small compared to what some of you have experienced, but it still makes it difficult for me to let myself get attached to this baby too soon.  DH and I both feel guilty that we aren't giving the little bean more love and attention in these early days.

[etsdtm99]

I am so sorry for all of your losses .. 

my 2nd pregnancy ended in m/c at 11 weeks..  It was diagnosed as a blighted ovum at 10w5d..  

[sweetestday]

I lost our 4th at 8wks. Also, when my 4th boy was born on my birthday last year, the mw found a little baby in the placenta. So, we lost a twin with that pregnancy and never knew it till birth. I'm so glad I never bled with it, because after the mc, I was so worried during the next pregnancy every time I went to the bathroom that I'd be bleeding. This pregnancy I haven't had any fears, which is wonderful.

[MommaHeather]

I'm due in February, on the 9th.

I have had four pregnancies, three miscarriages, and one child, dead by adoption. So, hopefully this little baby makes it. I feel that they have a lot of trauma in my womb to work through. I have been having a difficult time with bonding. My partner and I have been overwhelmed with fixing up our house, he's started a farm, and I work my job. I think I have a lot of insecurities and trauma from the past pregnancies. Oh, two of the miscarriages happened after my daughter was stolen through an unethical adoption. My miscarriages happened at 12 weeks. I'll be 10 weeks this coming Saturday.

[yummymummy2hannah]

I have my 6 year old daughter (normal pregnancy and birth), my son who was born/died at 16 weeks due to a sub chorionic hematoma that made me go into labor due to the excess blood in my womb and was classified as a placenta abruption. I then had a blighted ovum and lost that pregnancy at 7 weeks. I've also had 2 undocumented chemical pregnancies. I'm doing okay so far with this pregnancy. I haven't saw or heard the heart beat yet. I'm anxiously awaiting that. I'm doing a home water birth (Midwife) and am considered low risk even with my losses. I saw specialists and had many testing done after my son and all test prove it was an isolated fluke incident and I have no reason for it to happen again. Fingers crosses. Praying daily...
 

[SmtmsAlwys]

I've had a few miscarriages, but none of those even come close to comparing to the loss of our almost four year old, Elias, this past March. He died in his sleep somewhere between 9 and 10:15 in the morning. I know because those were the times we checked on him. 

This pregnancy doesn't freak me out. However, my children sleeping late does. I'm terrified any time I have to wake them up.

[Momma41]

  I can't even imagine the fear you must have SmtmsAlwys I am truly so so sorry...   Thank you for sharing.
 

[laurilj]

I'm so sorry for all of your losses. Smtms, my three year old son has the same birthday as your Elias, just a year later. I'll remember him on April 9th.

I have had two early miscarriages this year, my second and third pregnancies. Now I'm on my fourth, hoping it will stick. I'm farther along than I was with both of those pregnancies and feel strong symptoms, so hopefully it will last.