Anyone else NOT spilling the beans when they're in labor? - Page 2 « Back to Group Discussions

[Tizzy]

Originally Posted by keuriweo 
I never thought I'd be like this but these past several weeks I've become rather possessive and I'm not sure I'm going to want visitors coming too soon since they will surely want to hold the baby.  Honestly, I think I might not like it if DH tries to hold the baby!  (Guess I'll have to get used to that.)  She's with me all the time now - well, withIN me, really - and I guess I want to be greedy and keep her to myself.  Well, I think this way now - who knows how I'll feel postpartum.

I know what you mean!  I get like that. Right away I'm perfectly fine with DH taking the baby and letting me shower and so on, but when I'm ready to sit down to nurse or go to bed, the baby is all mine. When people want to visit, I have a really hard time being further than arms reach, and I find myself asking for the baby back all the time. And if someone walks away, while holding the baby, I get these panicky feelings inside LOL

[Harmony08]

My family and in-laws are hours away but they were for my last labor too.  It ended up being 40 hours, about 12 of which they all spent in the waiting room freaking out which I didn't know at the time (i was kinda busy) but it was explained to me in great detail how upsetting and difficult it was for them.  Do they want an apology?  Apparently my Dh's text updates were not enough.  Also, when I finally delivered and was unhooked and stitched and bleeding stopped etc and was finally holding my baby and being glad to be alive...we told them all they could come visit when we got to the recovery room and my mother said that they didn't know if they could hold on any longer because they were so worn out.  That REALLY got me.

So I have sworn up and down and all around that this time we won't tell anyone till he is born.  I don't need to worry about them worrying.  I know they (my family) will be really pissed but I just can't care that much.  i have a big job to do and another child to worry about.  The other tricky part is that I am telling my sister (who lives right by them) right away so she can come watch my 3 yr old.  Yep.  Pray for me ladies.  Hopefully everyone will be too excited about the new baby to be pissed for long.  Fingers crossed.  Except my mom has already expressed her disappointment that he is another boy not the grand daughter she wants.....but that is another story.........

[sallyrae17]

Originally Posted by Harmony08 

My family and in-laws are hours away but they were for my last labor too.  It ended up being 40 hours, about 12 of which they all spent in the waiting room freaking out which I didn't know at the time (i was kinda busy) but it was explained to me in great detail how upsetting and difficult it was for them.  Do they want an apology?  Apparently my Dh's text updates were not enough.  Also, when I finally delivered and was unhooked and stitched and bleeding stopped etc and was finally holding my baby and being glad to be alive...we told them all they could come visit when we got to the recovery room and my mother said that they didn't know if they could hold on any longer because they were so worn out.  That REALLY got me.

So I have sworn up and down and all around that this time we won't tell anyone till he is born.  I don't need to worry about them worrying.  I know they (my family) will be really pissed but I just can't care that much.  i have a big job to do and another child to worry about.  The other tricky part is that I am telling my sister (who lives right by them) right away so she can come watch my 3 yr old.  Yep.  Pray for me ladies.  Hopefully everyone will be too excited about the new baby to be pissed for long.  Fingers crossed.  Except my mom has already expressed her disappointment that he is another boy not the grand daughter she wants.....but that is another story.........

Wow. That totally sucks. Maybe this time around they'd want to help your sister watch your three-year old? I mean, he's gonna need way more attention! I'm relying on my partner's family to hang out with my son while I'm in labor, but if I go early, that probably won't happen. So I have neighbors as backups. Do you have anyone closer than your family if you need any help? Are you hiring a doula?

[Harmony08]

Hey,  Yes I do have a doula and a close friend very nearby.  For various reasons we would rather my three-year-old just be with my sister than with the whole crew.  

[Veritas Vitae]

Harmony, I think once they meet your little boy, they won't be able to be pissed that you didn't tell them sooner. 

[Mama Chickadee]

My parents are going to be coming to watch our kids when I go into labor, but they will likely be several hours away (sometimes closer, if my dad is consulting near to us, sometimes further away) So, depending on how fast my labor seems to be progressing, it will either be only my parents who know, or possibly someone else nearby who will be watching my kids until my parents can arrive.

I don't intend to post on Facebook, and love the suggestion to lock my page to postings. Last time, someone congratulated me on our new son before I even had a chance to get back from the hospital and announce it! I was kinda pissed, but it was my best friend who did it, and I think she was just so excited, and she probably didn't realize that she was the only person outside my immediate family who knew. But I am definitely locking my page this time around! The first facebook will hear of the baby is when I post our first day family photo, probably when we go for a walk in the park. 

On the other hand, I WILL most likely, post here in our DDC if I have enough time, just because I love the thought of knowing that other expecting mamas are thinking of me and sending good wishes! I also have enjoyed seeing updates of mamas in other DDCs as they progress from early labor signs to truly being in labor, to a happy announcement, so if circumstances permit, I may do the same. 

[Mama Chickadee]

FYI, Facebook hasn't updated the help section to show how to lock your wall (they have instructions, they don't work), so I had to poke around to figure it out. 

1. In the upper right hand corner, there are three tabs: "your name", "home" and a down arrow. Click the down arrow

2. Select Privacy settings

3. Scroll down to "Profile & Tagging"

4. Click "Edit settings"

5. See "Who can post on your wall" and from the drop down on the right, choose, "No one"

Of course, people can still comment on old posts, and write whatever they want, but this should prevent someone from posting "Congrats on your new baby" on your wall :)

[ilovetchotchkes]

My doula had the BEST suggestion. Because i'm a compulsive updater on FB, she said to have a list of statuses that I wanted my husband to "update" facebook with so that people don't catch on. LOL