Originally Posted by meemee
could he have been drunk or buzzed?
coz that is a really stupid remark to say openly. one could think that but to joke about that openly is plain stupid esp. in these days of megan's law.
yeah reporting the guy is overkill.
but definitely a talk with your friend and letting him know what poor taste that was, how upset you were - is definitely in order.
Even if he was intoxicated, intoxication is not an excuse for obectifying and sexualizing a girl. I'd actually be thankful for this situation because it's increased your Mama Bear awareness AND alerted you to the fact that this man is in your neighbor's life.
MeeMee, your point about "someone saying a stupid remark so openly"... that's EXACTLY why this is so alarming. The guy obviously has sick thoughts that flow so easily he doesn't even think to screen them before opening his mouth!
MissNoodle, as for you and your DH disagreeing about you calling in a concern: I have to say there are many times in my daughters' lives that I've done what I thought was best for them and me and DH were not in alignment. I don't like it when this happens, but in this instance, this does not at all effect your daughter. Your calling could lead to the prevention of future problems with this man: at minimum he may stop disgusting comments like this, or at most perhaps your call could lead to prevention of a future abuse. You have to trust your gut feeling on this. If you call on this guy, that's not going to effect your DH at all, but if you don't call, will it stay on your conscience? You are NOT saying he is an abuser, you are just concerned that someone could be so casual about a sexual comment about a young girl. Your job is not to investigate him, that's there's. If it were me, I'd use my own personal power and make the call ... and I'd tell my DH I made the call to demonstrate how much concern I have to advocate for child safety.
There are too many abusers at large in North Carolina AND the US.
I'm so terribly sorry for this situation for you and for your DD. She is blessed to have you as her Mama.