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Grap a cuppa and chat mamas! Hope all is well!

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Hi all!  We just have french toast with strawberries and coconut syrup, yummeroo!  Darkblue-I made your quinoa salad for the in-laws and family the other night and it was a hit!!  Thanks again.

Kel-What a huge endeavor you have taken on.  Supporting your DD through this recovery must be absolutely draining.  It's not totally surprising that you are waivering a bit in your own body image.  Not only are you in the in-between stage of pregnancy with weight gain and shape change, but you are also completely surrounded and probably consumed by talk of thinness, eating, restriction, etc.  The eating disorder is a very powerful thing and can effect everyone in its wake.  No one in your position would be able to remain immune to the self doubt that it spreads.  You are such a wonderful mama!  This process requires you to be so vulnerable and brave at the same time.  Taking walks, yoga, and a midwife appointment sound like the perfect healing processes you need.  Is there a support group for parents/family there?  I can't tell you how much I admire you for taking this on.

AFM, my tummy is feeling almost completely back to normal with very occasional and mild sour taste which I think is linked to acid stomach.  On the other hand, the EXHAUSTION is still overwhelming. DH literally had to carry me to bed last night.  I have much more energy during the day than in the first trimester, but talk about hitting the wall at the end of the day, yowza.  Anyone else feeling this way?  My hematocrit was borderline low at 12 weeks, so the doctor thought I would cross over into anemia soon.  I wonder if that's a contributing factor?  I've really been focused on whole food sources of heme and non-heme iron, but I may have to resort to supplement drops.

Hope everyone is doing well!  

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I was anemic in my third trimester last time. Mentioning fatigue to my midwife was her tip-off to send me for blood work. After I started supplementing I felt so much better.
post #4 of 30

Hi, everybody. 

 

Esp, you said exactly what i was thinking about Kel's body-image thoughts.  I think the situation calls for lots of self-care within the boundaries of possibility . . .

 

I've been wondering if I might be anemic, too.  No way to find out right now, but hopefully soon . . . I know that wall whereof you speak.  I think it bothers my DH because he has no idea when I'm going to hit it.  Some days I can do a lot and some days I Just. Can't.  It bothers me, too, but at least I'm the one who gets to say, "have to stop now" whereas he just feels kind of side-swiped by it.  :-(  

 

I'm going to be really curious to see what my mw says at my appointment next week.  I feel like my fundus is really high, but it's hard to tell on myself at this stage of pregnancy.  I feel huge, even though my bloating has calmed down a lot - but I started out this pg 15 - 20 lbs heavier than I did my first two, so it's hard to tell (I was probably somewhere inbetween for my 3rd pg).   And one day I felt two pokes at the same time, about four inches apart.  Which is close enough that at this stage it could be one athletic baby (16 weeks) but far enough apart to make me wonder about twins.  I really don't want to be having twins.  I'm sure I'd adapt, though.

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Ditto the self-care vibbes to you, Kel. Esp831 and mamabeakley, have you ever tried Floradix? And I'm not jsut saying that b/c there's an ad for it on the right hand side of my screen :P That makes such a difference for me. I think it tastes ok and doesn't constipate like some iron suppliments do.

 

AFM, someone mentioned in another thread about that in between stage where you've felt baby move but don't feel it consistently. That's where I'm at (17w4d) and it's messing with my mind. The nervousness I'm feeling has really cemented for me just how real this baby is and how much I do already love him/her. So far I've mostly been on pregnancy auto-piolot, not giving much thought to baby really. Now I'm kind of panicked that something may be wrong. Right now I'm unsure of what is fear and what is intuition. Does that make sense? But on the up side, DS (5y/o) is really excited about baby now that I'm showing. He wants a sister (aaawww!), and was dissappointed when I explained that s/he won't be able to play football right away. I love the tenderness and curiosity this pregnancy has brought out in him. He gets me water and tells me the baby is thirsty, and he talks a lot about how "the dentist is going to pull my baby out"...uh...we need to watch some birth videos that don't involve sheep or men in blue gloves...any links/recommendations that would be appropriate for young kids?

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Hey ladies! On the topic of self care- huge over here right now, too. DH has been very supportive of me needing to just hang by myself for a few minutes or even go take a nap! I just have a hard time asking for help. I've been working on it for the last year or so, but it's still hard to just slow down and listen!  I hope you all are getting some mama time and are able to sit with what's going on and relax! 

 

cieloazul - I hear you on those movements. I hope they start getting consistent for you and give you a little bit of relief!  This babe has been super active since about 11 weeks, though I wondered if I was just wanting to feel it so much that I was imagining it. We had an ultrasound last week and much to my surprise & intuition, he's a mover, big time! He wouldn't stop wiggling around. I have two very mild tempered girls and this little active guy is already busy!  

 

mamabeakley - I was super curious, too! I felt like my fundus was higher, faster this time and was working myself up to that all would be okay if their were two in there. It was a total mind game though, on my end. I think I am just stretching faster since this is number 3. This is number 4 for you, right? Maybe you are going through the same thing? 

 

esp- I second the whole iron issue. It is too easy for us to get anemic! I feel better if I eat more protein on top of supplements, though lately I've been a carb monster.  I totally hit that wall that you are hitting. And yeah, it can happen at noon or at 8 at night. I'm ready for that to be over! 

 

darkblue- how are you mama? are you all settled back in after the fires? Are there any still going in your area? 

 

AFM - my hands are hurting, as I've been knitting up a whole lot of baby goodness. Yesterday I finished a tiny little grampa sweater for my guy.  So fun! 

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Oh man, I hear the exhaustion. I woke up this morning feeling like a tranquilized manatee. It seriously feels like someone drained out half of my blood, and it's all I can do to sit at my desk at work. Ugh! Even coffee hasn't helped (hate to imagine where I'd be without it). Also, my belly hurts -- has anyone else dealt with this? It just sort of aches. No cramping, not nausea, just...soreness. It's so strange. 

 

Last week was quite a stressful one! I had a bit of a teary breakdown on Tuesday, dealing with some Visa stuff being up in the air as well as the added stress of the fact that we have to move out on August 15th and I'll be gone on vacation August 9 -14. DH was really understanding and so sweet. For the most part I'm fine, but the whole moving-internationally thing can definitely take its toll at points. So many logistics and things to consider!

 

I felt some fluttering/bubbly movements that I'm 99% sure was the babe this past week. Now all I want to do is lay still so I can feel something! I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and I know it will still be a while before I really feel much else, but every subtle sign is wonderful. 

 

Anyone else doing prenatal yoga? I'm starting my 4 week class tonight and I'm so excited! I just hope I have enough energy to actually do it... :)

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Anyone else still feeling nauseous? It's mainly in the morning, and at least I'm not vomiting, but I'm beginning to think I'm going to be stuck like this for the rest of the pregnancy. I'm having SO much trouble gaining back the 10 lbs I've lost - I'm still six under, and that was a celebration! Exhaustion here, too. Though I wish I had enough for prenatal exercise classes! Maybe that would perk me up a little! ... until I fall over at night, but y'know. Eventually DH will get used to it, I'm sure! :D
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All this talk of iron makes me wonder about my levels. Generally, I have just felt *off* the last few weeks. Exhausted, unable to concentrate, headaches, and my joints ache. I've never felt this way during pregnancy before, but I've also been having some issues with the dry desert air and allergies and I think I may have a cold.

 

19 weeks and I'm finally heading to my 2nd appt. I'm irritated, because they wouldn't schedule it with a CNM. HAD to be with an OB that's a guy. I didn't put up much of a fuss since it should just be this appt. I hate how they work appts here. I feel like a cow being shuffled through the line. On the bright side, I hope to switch around 28 weeks to either a wonderful CPM that we had a meet and greet with, to another hospital, or to the "birth center". It's all dependent on my tooth and the mini van we have to buy. Though, my DH who is absolutely wonderful, has suggested that we wait on the minivan until a couple months after the birth. He thinks we'll be OK in our sedan. It does seat 6, but that would require my DD2 being in her convertible in the front/middle seat and I'm not liking that idea. He really wants me to have a homebirth, so he keeps bring up the idea.

 

Anyitara - I have had some nausea at different times in the day. It's not terrible though, so I ignore it the best I can!

post #10 of 30
Thread Starter 

I completely agree with the comments on self care! I have been tired lately as well, but I feel *so* guilty giving in and taking a nap, even though DH has been awesome and encouraging....there's a part of me that is completely freaking out that I am *this* tired already and there is still such a long stretch to go! I made this amazing vegan lasagna yesterday, and it was absolutely what I have been craving! I made fresh pasta with flax seed and spelt, and faux ricotta...Mmmm! I was in heaven getting to have leftovers today.

Kel-you and your family are in my thoughts!!

 

I hope all of us who are tired get a giant burst of sunshine-y energy!

 

Hope all is well mamas!

post #11 of 30

Hi Mummas!

 

We finally have internet again! Sigh!!!!

We have been crazy busy moving here! Its starting to were both of us down, which leads to grumpy nights sometimes.

We have all of our stuff at the new house finally, but had a final inspection of the old house today and "got in trouble" for the carpets being steam cleaned badly (really not our fault), so now we have to go over tonight and re clean everything! We left it in a much better state than we found it, so am a bit upset with the agents.

 

Albi wiggles a fair bit now, and i can always tell where he is, up down right or left. It feels crazy because no one else can feel him yet, so i feel like a mind reader!

 

New house is amazing, the animals, DH and I are all really loving it, especially the wood fire heater and the deep bath!

 

:) Not much else to say! Just a lot of exhaustion and hungry hungry hungry!!

 

xxooo Sandy

post #12 of 30

Thanks for the positive responses - I've been feeling better the past couple days and more like myself - still spending all day every day at the hospital - but once that is at an end, in the next week hopefully - then I plan to start getting some actual physical activity.  In the meantime I've  been drinking lots of water and trying to eat well - although basically any food that takes any amount of time to prepare has been ruled out for the time being.  To top everything off I got a call from the cnm practice yesterday (in Montana) saying that my pap smear came back abnormal and they advise a colposcopy.  I've done a bunch of research on it this morning and am just going to try and eat even better and supplement with C and continue my b complex and have another pap in 4 months.  They don't recommend anything to be actually done until after pregnancy, even if there were cancerous cells or what have you, so I might as well just take good care of myself and not worry.  I was actually a little irritated that they called and told me since I can't even get back in there for another 2 months! but it's just another reminder to take care.  It didn't exactly make my day though!  

 

Other than all that, I feel great.  No aches or pains, no severe moods, I can feel my uterus getting bigger all the time, and baby's papa is coming to visit in 9 days and counting. 

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Kel, glad to hear things are looking up a bit! I think it's great that you're able to give yourself some little ways to take extra care of yourself. Definitely think of the call about your pap smear as just incentive to be good to your body, rather than something to worry about. And 9 days to see the little one's papa, that's just barely over a week! Yay!

 

travelmumma, so exciting that you're getting settled in the new place! You must be thrilled to really be "nesting" -- and deep bath, oh my. Sounds incredible. :) I'm jealous that you can feel so much movement from your bean (but that's awesome). Felt a few little bubbles/flutters every now and again, but nothing very pronounced yet. 

 

Prenatal yoga yesterday was so wonderful. It is completely worth it to do a class, just to have that pose and meditation instruction as well as sharing with the other pregnant ladies. I really loved it. I decided to ask my best friend (who is a yoga teacher) if she'll record some meditation/breathing exercises for me that I can listen to during labour. Just listening to someone talk me through breathing, etc, relaxes me so much.

 

Definitely much more energy today -- I don't know what was wrong with me yesterday! It was ridiculous, I was like the walking dead. I felt better in the evening though, and today is good. I'm just so  glad it wasn't the flu or anything like that. 

 

Sold the first thing of ours on Craigslist today (for the move). It's hard to think that in 4 weeks, most of our stuff will be gone. The duality is crazy -- both incredibly freeing and quite bittersweet. 

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I want to second the Floradix recomendation - it literally saved my birth center birth with DS1 - I was so anemic they were saying I would have to deliver in the university hospital if I didn't get my iron up, and 6 weeks later I was fine :)

 

cielo - I really hope the baby doesn't get pulled out by the dentist, lol! I really did crack up with that one! I have started watching some videos with my 6 YO DS, he wants to be there and it's important for me that he is prepared for reality. He has stated he is so glad he got to come out the normal way (not c-section), and hopes the baby does too :) He kisses my belly all the time, it's super sweet :)

 

Kel I am glad things are looking up - seeing your Dh will help too, I bet!

 

I'm with you all on the energy levels, though I have been pushing it hard so I can't really blame anyone but myself. I had a great trip to see my brother (minus the total 13 hours driving, ugh!), relaxed in the pool a ton, I REALLY liked lying on my tummy on a raft in the pool! My boys were great, they really helped make sure I was taken care of while we were gone :) This week, I'm staffing our school's 'summer camp' - just a week of Sudbury model school, but it's the first time I've had to work for real in a long time - 8-4 every day, and it is making me SO tired. I came today and could barely stand up, took a 2 hour nap & I am ready to get back to bed already. It would probably have been easier if I hadn;t gotten home at midnight on Sunday before starting this week!

 

I posted a belly photo - I am reliably huge now, lol! Baby moves a lot, especially in the evenings, and I have had a couple of nights needing to get up and eat in the middle of the night. That plus size makes me wonder about twins, too, but I had the same concern last time, and was fine. It doesn't help that a good friend just had twins (naturally, at home, at 39.5 weeks, and she is exclusively bf'ing them, I am so proud of her!).

 

Oh, and I am thinking about prenatal yoga, but honestly last time around I went to a few classes, and was so disgusted about women who I expected to be more naturally minded talking about elective inductions, I couldn't take it. So we shall see!

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cieloazul, I watched Gentle Birth Choices with my DD. She always enjoys watching births. I got it at my library. They make a point in the video that kids can be at births. I don't remember anything in it that I distracted her from seeing. (Like Orgasmic Birth, I didn't want her to see the vaccum delivery. I wish I hadn't seen it either.)

 

chicajones, international moving is quite impressive! I looked into it a while ago out of curiosity to see what was involved, and I was quite boggled by the maze of steps. Let us know how it's going.

 

travelmumma, glad to here you guys are getting settled and enjoying the new place. Can the bath cover your boobs and knees at the same time? (That's from Grey's Anatomy.)

 

kel, that is a bummer to hear about the pap when you've already got a lot going on. Sounds like you've got the perfect mindset on it.

 

segolilymama, I got up to eat the other night too! I was a little hungry and thirsty, so I ate an orange to knock both out.

 

I've been tired and distracted, which makes it tough to work at home, but other than that smooth sailing. I had a really intense longing to meet the baby the other day. Plus I want to get noticably round. I see ladies in the grocery store with large bellies and think, I can't wait!

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chicajones, international moving is quite impressive! I looked into it a while ago out of curiosity to see what was involved, and I was quite boggled by the maze of steps. Let us know how it's going.

 

travelmumma, glad to here you guys are getting settled and enjoying the new place. Can the bath cover your boobs and knees at the same time? (That's from Grey's Anatomy.)

 

 

segolilymama, I got up to eat the other night too! I was a little hungry and thirsty, so I ate an orange to knock both out.

 

I've been tired and distracted, which makes it tough to work at home, but other than that smooth sailing. I had a really intense longing to meet the baby the other day. Plus I want to get noticably round. I see ladies in the grocery store with large bellies and think, I can't wait!

Ditto Chica!! Very impressed, slightly jealous.. but then when i think about how hard just moving two blocks away has been, lol its all yours! Having said that DH and I are chatting an international move in a few years so fill me up with tips!!!

 

Sego and Jackies- thank goodness I am not alone!!!!!! I wake up about 3 am thinking about almonds and vegemite on toast! Droooooool!

 

Jackies- I am going nuts here longing for Albi!!!! I thought to myself this morning "I miss him!!!" .. but can you miss someone that yu haven't met yet???? I just want him/her in my arms! I want the warmth and the wight that is a babe!! I want the mik moustaches and little noises while they feed.... dear goodness I just want my baby!!!

And i want to be noticeably huge too lol!!

Alhtough strangers have been noticing, but then i tend to freak them out by rubbing the bump and smiling in a way that DH says screams "MINE! MY BABY!" Lol!!! I just thought it meant "I know! I love bumps too and now I have one!"

 

AFM- today has been so bloody hard! Hours of crying and wailing and hysterical sobbing about "my life going no where"... yeah. I think it was/is just a combination of not getting this job that i so so wanted, university just seeming like a useless struggle and DH being away at work and tired so much!!

 

I just need to find a hobby!! So hit me up with hobby ideas Mummas!!!!!!

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Hi all, so much is happening with everyone!  We are a busy group of productive mamas, that's for sure.  Thanks for the Floradix advice!  It just came in the mail today, so I will start taking it tomorrow.  After hearing from you all, I think anemia is what is pushing me over the edge into I-Can't-Move-to-Save-my-Life mode.  It took all of my strength to get off the couch this evening to get a bowl of mango sorbet mixed with chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.  Has anyone ever tried that combo?  My DH thinks it sounds weird, but it's delish!

Kel-glad that things are a bit better and that your partner will be with you soon!  A few years back I had an abnormal pap and I supplemented Vit C w/bioflavanoids for a couple of months and when I went back in it was all back to normal.  

Cieloazul-I'm also with you on the movement thing.  Still very infrequent around here.  When I realize that it's been a while, I get that same feeling that you're describing.  I almost feel a little guilty for not thinking more about this baby, but when I worry something is wrong I also realize how attached I've already become.  This in between stage is so hard!  Soon we'll be complaining about baby kicks keeping us up at night ;)

Travelmumma-it sounds like you had a rough day!  I totally understand...I'm sorry you didn't get the job you wanted, I'm sure in someway the universe is protecting you from a less than ideal situation.  Let's see, hobbies...are you feeling well enough to get out and about or are you thinking more indoor?  Is it cold there now?  Do you have a blog?  Any projects you'd like to take on at your new house?

Chicajones-I feel like a dope, but somehow I missed that you are making an international move!!  Where are you going?  Please keep us updated, I'd love to learn more about the process as well.  It sounds like a big change to go through while pregnant but I'm sure you have it figured out.

Segolily-I'm glad you said something because last night I woke up to take care of DD2 and realized I was starving!  A bowl of cereal always does the trick for me.  I've also been much hungrier during the day as well and having to eat more frequently.  

Mamabeakley--do you think you're having twins?!?  I'm definitely far bigger this time around than with the other two, but I'm sure we've just got one LO in there!

Stay cool ladies!

post #18 of 30

Oh just wanted to add a quick exciting update!

 

:) I have just been asked to help represent the Australian National Maternity Coalition, on a national level! (Think meeting politicians, organising conferences etc)!!!! I am really excited! And am off to a conference in a month to start it all off!

It feels like a very exciting step to me because at the end of the day I would love to be a childbirth educator/midwife/doula and work internationally helping women in difficult situations and developing countries to make their births and pregnancies more comfortable and safe :) 

YAY! What a huge emotional shift from yesterday!

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Oh just wanted to add a quick exciting update!

 

:) I have just been asked to help represent the Australian National Maternity Coalition, on a national level! (Think meeting politicians, organising conferences etc)!!!! I am really excited! And am off to a conference in a month to start it all off!

It feels like a very exciting step to me because at the end of the day I would love to be a childbirth educator/midwife/doula and work internationally helping women in difficult situations and developing countries to make their births and pregnancies more comfortable and safe :) 

YAY! What a huge emotional shift from yesterday!

VERY exciting! Congratulations!

post #20 of 30
Thanks, Jackies, for the birth video rec smile.gif

Chicajones, BDTD. My mom's sage advice was to quit stressing, you're going to get in the plane whether everything is done or not. As long as you get the legal stuff settled like visas and passports, the rest is just details. But I totally hear you on what a pain tht legal stuff can be. Luckily the UK is relatively civilized (civilised?) so it's pretty easy to sort things out on this end if need be. And there's prenatal yoga here too, plus it's extra blissful when the teacher leads meditation in a British accent :P

Congrats, travelmumma, On your new gig! That's so exciting.

I've felt a little bit of baby movement since I last posted, which has been a huge relief. I've decided this child is just a different person than DS (to state the obvious). DS was like a little rabbit from the first moment I felt him move; thump-thump-thump-thump-thump all day long. He's still a wiggly guy so no surprise there.This kid in contrast seems to sort of gently twist and roll, get comfy, and hang out there for a while. It's a very different sensation. I'm hoping that means a baby has a calm personality...our family could really use some softer energy like that. We shall see...
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