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post #21 of 32

Definitely get as much information and knowledge you can before you sit in front of a doctor. I have had 4 c/s and wish I had been more knowledgeable about c/s and labor with my last one. I unfortunately tried vba3c and got manipulated/scared into another c/s :( I can't stress enough to be informed. There is no more risk between 1 and 3+ c/s with complications. Doctors will use all types of words to scare you into a c/s because it is convenient for them. I would rather vbac with the small percentage of uterine rupture or injury to myself or baby, then to go back through another c/s and deal with the dangers of yet another unnecessary surgery and all the risks that comes with major abdominal surgery. There are real needs for c/s, don't get me wrong, but this country unfortunately uses them as another "birthing option" instead of a real medical need. My second two are 11 and a half months apart and I found out after having my #4 that I could have had a vbac with #3, but then doc said it had to be a c/s because they were too close together (should have done research back then, but hey, I trusted the dr...thought they had our best interest in mind...) I hope all goes well for you, and you get the birth you desire. I am now possibly pregnant with #5, want to get to hear the heartbeatheartbeat.gif before I say definitely pregnant... and I will be trying for a vba4c, it may have to a homebirth, possibly unassisted if I can't find someone to help me, but I will not go through another unnecessary c/s! joy.gif

post #22 of 32

Just wanted to chime in that I had a subchorionic hematoma and everything ended up fine! Obviously, that's not always the case, but it doesn't sound like yours is very severe. (I had light bleeding, like you.) 

 

My little boy is 14 months now. smile.gif

post #23 of 32

I agree with both of the above pps, get educated and don't stress too much.  I know, hormones make you crazy for a bit but it gets better, hang in there.

post #24 of 32

i second the ican recommendation.  they were very helpful in assisting me to find a birth provider that would get me the birth i wanted.  

post #25 of 32

Just wanted to chime in.. First, I hope your pregnancy has continued on healthy and happy! Second, I had a CS in '01 due to a failed induction, 12 hours with hideous pitocin contractions and finally my teeny little doctor came in and told me (5'11" and made for giving birth) that she would need to "take" my baby because I wasn't progressing, 12 hours was too long and having a CS was nothing to be ashamed of - hell, she herself had 3 elective CS's! Gee, I guess that makes it no big deal right? WRONG. It looks like a permanent black mark on your record to any doctor who doesn't fully support a healthy woman having a VBAC. It's the most absurd set of rules ever, based on their fear of lawsuits and their lack of respect for women. 

 

Anyway, I had my first water birth VBAC 14 months after my CS. I couldn't find a supportive OB at that time so I went with the most wonderful birth center ever and had a beautiful, safe, respectful VBAC in an amazing birthing tub. A year later my husband left my kids and I, so I figured I'd never have more children and hadn't been paying attention to the huge mess my state has made of VBAC's rights. So, in '09 I found out I was pregnant unexpectedly and was totally horrified when I started interviewing doctors. They were all so totally opposed to VBAC's, water births, and to my absolutely heartbreaking disappointment, the birth center where I'd had my wonderful birth had closed down. I'm a woman whose body does not gestate for 40 weeks on the dot, I typically go 42-44 and that gets the doctors in brow-beating mode to tell me I'm endangering my babies by not delivering at term, so that added to the VBAC issue makes me a walking time bomb in an OB's eyes. The only way I've avoided a medicalized forced birth is by staying strong and getting educated about my body and my rights. In '10 I gave birth to my 3rd child, again 2 weeks late, and fought off the "we'll just schedule your induction for this date" comments by responding that they could "schedule" whatever they wanted to, I wouldn't be showing up. I had my 3rd and 4th VBAC 's at hospitals, this state is horrible for home birth and alternatives, but ya know what? We were healthy and safe because my husband and I knew when to say NO, BACK OFF, WE'RE GOOD, in no uncertain terms. Be strong!! 

post #26 of 32

Something that the doctor may not have mentioned to you - they so rarely do - is that just by getting pregnant after a cesarean you are at risk for uterine rupture.

 

I have a sick kiddo so I willhave to finish my thought later.

post #27 of 32

I've been doing lots of research preparing for a VBAC, and came across one of the more thorough sites for research on uterine rupture.  I'm of the belief that as much info as possible is best to properly prepare, and found this useful.

 

http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/275854-overview#a1

post #28 of 32
Thread Starter 

hi friends!

I'm back and glad to see a few posts on here since I went mia.

well my second pregnancy has gone along GREAT and the subchorionic hematoma I had at the beginning disappeared so there is THAT!

 

now.. I hadn't been thinking much about the VBAC vs CS issue but now that my due date is approaching I am starting to get the excited fear again.

 

My current doctor has already notes me as a DESIRED REPEAT CSECTION in her computer when this is not the case, every time I tell her that I didn't know exactly what I wanted but now I'm thinking going full term and if this baby decides to come to let him come on his own if all looks well.

I'm now 32 weeks pregnant and afraid I may have to change doctors...

the only real fear I have is that my babies are about 13 months apart if I did the math right, baby 1 born Feb. 4th and this one due March 5th.. i'm afraid the closeness would be an issue..

 

should it really matter???

 

it also doesn't help that my mother doesn't support my desire to VBAC. she says I'm putting my life and the baby's at risk... that I should listen to my doctor because doctor knows best.

still torn. this really sucks.. I don't want another CS.

post #29 of 32

Wow.  You really need more supportive people around you!  Good for you for listening to your gut.  I have found a wealth of knowledge and support on a facebook vbac group. 

http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/groups/183444955077965/?bookmark_t=group

It's a private group, so just ask to join. There are people there who have had a vbac with babies close together and just so much info to give you the confidence to do it.  Good luck!

post #30 of 32
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by jr'smom View Post

Wow.  You really need more supportive people around you!  Good for you for listening to your gut.  I have found a wealth of knowledge and support on a facebook vbac group. 

http://www.facebook.com/home.php#!/groups/183444955077965/?bookmark_t=group

It's a private group, so just ask to join. There are people there who have had a vbac with babies close together and just so much info to give you the confidence to do it.  Good luck!

 

Thank you for that!! I'll def check it out :)

post #31 of 32
Thread Starter 

figured i would revisit this thread.

So! my second baby, my darling baby boy was born via emergency c-section on Feb. 19th. 

I went into labor naturally the night of my baby shower and everything looked great, made it to the hospital, i was dilating, everything looked promising.. until the monitors started going off again just like they did with my first born, my little girl who was also an emergency c-section.

in the end, his heart rate started dropping and after crying my whole heart out to the point that they were calling me catatonic and wanted to put me out, they wheeled me into the room where they cut me open again and my son was born!

 

i hated the fact that now they say i am too narrow, something about a bone that wont allow my babies to drop through and be born through my dang vagina hole. anyway, im happy to say both my babies are now healthy crazy monsters. 

 

but now i know that my next baby, will be a planned c-section. 

post #32 of 32
My vbac attempt failed about 3 weeks ago due to severe heart decels. So into the OR again. My first was do to malpositioning. Two different reasons for two different csections. It sucks but I guess there are some of us who really have to give birth surgically.
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