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[babytoes]

What about Xander? I love this name, but DP isn't fond of it at all. I really like River too, but a good friend of mine already stole it.

[revolting]

When I think of Xander, I think of the character in Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

[babytoes]

Haha! Yeah that's what one of my friends said, I didn't watch the show so I have no clue what the character was like. Was he a good guy? Was he likable?

[withlittlelungs]

we have already chosen our girl names (we have 2 and will name baby accordingly after we meet her. if it ends up being a girl). 
We are either going with Bowen "Bowie" or Lennox. 

We are drawing a complete blank on boys. We love Harrison but it doesn't sound great with our last name (Hudson)

[babytoes]

Originally Posted by withlittlelungs 
 

We are either going with Bowen "Bowie" or Lennox. 

We are drawing a complete blank on boys. We love Harrison but it doesn't sound great with our last name (Hudson)

I like Bowie and Lennox. Lennox sound rich, and who doesn't love Bowie? 

I have to agree with you, Harrison is a nice name, but Harrison Hudson I think may get him picked on... We have the same problem, I really like Pembrook, but with DP's last name, Pearo, not so good any more!

[SamiPolizzi]

I haven't thought about names too much, but if my DS had been a girl, he would have been Amelia Jeanne or Emaline Jeanne. I'd like to stick with one of those if it's a girl. Probably Amelia since my sister and brother-in-law are SUPER set on Emaline if they ever have a girl. (It was my pick first, btw.) For a boy, I have no idea.

I'm a little nervous about the name selecting process because I was a single mom with my first so it was pretty easy. There was no one to disagree with. I'm sure we'll be able to come to an agreement, though. :)

[BeantownBaby9]

this is a hard one for us.  My college roomie died a few years ago and since then, if we had a girl, I wanted to use her name or her middle name.  Whitney, Whitley, Healy, etc.  I also love the name Tierney or doing a hyphenated Tierney-Kate.  But now, my mom had Stg4 Lung Cancer and may not make it to this LO's birth.  If she gets the year we've been told she has, they'll get maybe a month together and thus, I don't know if the pressure is on or not to name this LO in some way after my mom.  Cancer, weirdly, has been the best thing for our relationship, but if there was no cancer, I'd never had considered naming a baby after her.  We haven't had a great relationship for the last decade until now.  Boy names, my hubby has been set on Tristian for years, but I would really love to name the baby with the same initials as my dad, GMW.  So Graham, Griffin are my favorites, then Merrick, Marlowe, and McLaughlin (family name) are all in the running.  

[BeagleSmuggler]

My side of the family has a tradition of naming children after relatives, which I like. It means we all have sort of old fashioned names. There's no real protocol. Many family members choose distant relatives just to find a name they like. 

My partner and I really wanted to name our child after my brother. Girl or boy. I've always liked boys' names for girls anyways. I still want to do this. The sad part is my brother passed away suddenly and unexpectedly of no known causes only 4 months ago. I'm a bit concerned people will react badly to the name choice. On the other hand I don't know that it is a reason not to give the name. My brother and I were extremely close and this was something I wanted to do before he passed. I guess I just want to get a feel for how people on here react, and prepare for how friends and family might take the news. 

[Bena]

Originally Posted by BeagleSmuggler 

My side of the family has a tradition of naming children after relatives, which I like. It means we all have sort of old fashioned names. There's no real protocol. Many family members choose distant relatives just to find a name they like. 

My partner and I really wanted to name our child after my brother. Girl or boy. I've I`malways liked boys' names for girls anyways. I still want to do this. The sad part is my brother passed away suddenly and unexpectedly of no known causes only 4 months ago. I'm a bit concerned people will react badly to the name choice. On the other hand I don't know that it is a reason not to give the name. My brother and I were extremely close and this was something I wanted to do before he passed. I guess I just want to get a feel for how people on here react, and prepare for how friends and family might take the news. 

I`m so sorry for the loss of your brother.  That must be very, very hard.

I think naming your child after your brother is a nice idea.  Or using a variation of his name? 

I would definitly talk to my parents about it, though, see how they feel about it.  My daughter is named after my grandmother  I sorta "asked" my dad permission to use the name...not really "permission" I guess, but more gave him a head's up that we were seriously considering it and see how he and his sibblings felt.  My aunt cried because she was extremelly close to her mother, and says she was overjoyed that she could keep saying the name.

In my baby and mom yoga class, a few years ago, there was a mom who was in a very similar situation; they had wanted to name their son after his deceased uncle, but in the end, voted against it because they felt that it was too much pressure on this child to "be like uncle".  So they made a hyphenated name with the name. 

I completely get her feelings and why they did that,  but it`s so personal, isn`t it?  It`s just a matter of what feels right for your family!  The good new is, you do have 9 months to think about it!

hugs!

[jodieanneanton]

BeagleSmuggler- I don't see anything wrong with naming the baby after your brother...ESPECIALLY since he passed recently.  To me, it would be super meaningful.  I hope no one gives you a hard time about it!

[BeagleSmuggler]

Thanks for the replies. We had already discussed the idea of naming the first child we had after my brother with my parents both before and after his death. They are completely on side. It's more extended family and friends that I'm concerned about. Just trying mostly to get the backbone to tell people it is our decision and it was made from a positive loving place. My brother was such a low-key, zen, calm and accepting person I know he would have felt slightly awkward at first having a child named after him, but he would have loved any child no matter how similar or different from himself. 

[Bena]

I say, really, in this case, it`s only yours and your parents opinion and feelings that really matter.  He was your brother and their son, and this child will be yours and their grandchild.  Everyone else, well, too bad!

Thing is, no matter what you name your child, there will always be people who like the name and people who don`t like the name.  Regardless of what your reasons to chose a name are.  In the end, it`s your  choice.

I`ve learned, to not discuss names that we are seriously considering with anyone other than very close friends that will not comment or judge.   I find that people are more prone to comment before the child is born, as though they feel they have a say in the naming of this baby!  Whereas when the "deed is done" and the baby is born and named, they tend to silence their objections.

[BeagleSmuggler]

Thanks Bena, my cousin who had her first child August 2009 went with the same idea. They kept his name a complete secret until after he was born, using exactly your rationale. I haven't heard a bad thing about the name choice. 

[Sara79]

Beaglesmuggler I think its very touching to use your brothers name. I too pray no one gives you any grief about it.

Girl names always come so easy for us we have a long list its boy names we have a hard time deciding on. We are liking Emma Rose, Emily Rose, Emmi Rose, Kennedy Rose, Hannah Rose or Madison (Maddi) Rose

For a boy I like Jeremiah, Greyson & Jonah but honestly none of those feel like they would be picked.

[BeagleSmuggler]

For boys we have a Grayson, Greydon and Gryphon in our circle of friends. I love the names, but wonder what's making them so popular?

[firespiritmelody]

We like classic names that are NOT on the top 100 list for the year before our kiddos were born. We've always had a much harder time with boys names, so it's lucky we've got three girls so far! We don't have any girls names picked out yet this time though. We did toss around Griffon for a boys name a couple of years ago but I'm super sad to see that it's gained such popularity the last couple of years so I doubt we'll end up using it now. I love seeing everyone elses suggestions though!!

Also, FWIW, our youngest was well over a week before we were "sure" what her name was going to be

[mamakaikai]

We have two girls, and found out via u/s both times so we have exhausted the baby name list for girls. I think we're set on a girl name this time. Boys names....no clue. Might need to make something up or reappropriate a non-name name as I don't like any boys names I see in books/name-sites, at least not the fit with the girls names my daughters have. Neither of our daughters were officially names for 30 days after birth, so I figure we've got plenty of time to agonize yet!

[GranolaMama09]

Totally not to early to think about names.  We've had ours picked for a bit now.  I'm big into what a name means.  For us, boy names require Scottish origin (SO and I are both primarily Scottish) and girls require Greek origin first names and French middle names as this is the pattern in my family.  Plus, it can't be weird enough to get them teased but has to be unique.  As you can see, this makes the name game a bit of a challenge!  As PP said, I was also single the first time so I got to pick the name by myself.  So, for a girl we've decided on Magdalene Claire (Tower of Light) with Maggie for short.  Boy name we are less certain - we're still in the test drive phase.  Honestly, I think a lot of that is because I want a girl and can't wrap my head around a boy yet.  Anyway, we're currently operating under Thorin Rhys (Thunder of Passion/Enthusiasm) for a boy with Rhys (Reese) for short.  I am heavily considering sharing names nowhere else just to avoid the flack I know we'll get for them.  It's OUR baby and we like them!

[naturalmama1002]

We're kind of stuck on Henry for a boy, but we'll have to revisit that if it is a boy. Neither of us can get past thinking it's a girl. Hopefully it's not wishful thinking! Heehee. Fiona, Naomi, Willow, and Olive are at the top of our girls' list. I feel like Fiona might have some associations (like Shrek, ugh) and our cat is named Oliver, hmm. We haven't even addressed the middle name issue yet.

[babytoes]

We watched Tron last night, and the girl (program) that helps Flynn is named Quora (Cora), I like it... But its popular. Spelling it the traditional way its #204. Ugh! This is so hard!