I am new this forum and found it by searching for some important information this morning. I am in Kentucky first of all, so my questions would pertain to that state only. Let's see if I can sum this up quickly: my son is turning 10 this year and has never met his bio father. We did the paternity test when my son was weeks old and things were set in motion for getting child support (I was a single mother at the time). When my son was 8 months old, I met my husband and we married a year later; so my husband is his DADDY/FATHER in all the possible ways. He has always supported, loved, and raised both my kids as his own; the most wonderful father in the world. I have to reiterate here, that my son has never even been in the same room as his bio dad but my husband has been there, day in and day out, for coming up on 10 years (I think that is a big piece of the picture here.) We went years without seeing any child support and I really didn't care; at this point I was regretting that I ever pushed for child support in the first few months of my son's life. Fast forward to 7 years later and I get mail saying I am to go to court. Long story short, he had to pay a large sum to avoid going to jail (for lack of child support for so many years) and then began his monthly payments. He has made those payments ever since, so a few years of paying on time. I should also note here that he messaged me on facebook (no I am not his friend, but I have it set up so that anyone can message me) in 09 a few times, wanting my address, wanting to send a bday gift, wanting to meet him. Then nothing for 3 more years and he is wanting my address again, to send things, to meet him. So, my question for you all is this: what do I do here? Oh, I should also point out that in his messages from 09 he told me he has lost custody of all his other children and I can't keep him from his last son. (!!!!!!!!)
What rights does he actually have? Do I have to give him any info? He is two states away now, but he is out of the military in a few months. During the court thing, he wanted my sons social # so that we could switch off years for taxes?????!!!! I asked my people if I had to and they said no, so bio dad has like zero information from me. Plus we recently moved and I don't know if I legally have to tell him where. Do I have to give him anything?
We want more than anything for my husband to adopt both children (the others bio dad already signed his rights away) but my son's bio dad says he will never sign his over, because HE has a right to see his son.
To me, bio dad is nothing.... my husband is my son's father and nothing can change that. Plus, my son is a very emotional and sensitive child and it would literally mess him up so so bad to have to have anything to do with this man.....
Please help if you can and thank you in advance for any advice you have to offer.
My apologies for the long post, it was harder than I thought to sum things up....