Aww, MamanFrancaise, I'm so sorry for your friend's loss. Other than one very early chemical pregnancy, I don't have much personal experience with miscarriage, but I can share what my SIL told me when we got pregnant and they had been trying to conceivefor over 2 years and had a number of losses. Basically, she felt that even though she was sad that they weren't pregnant too, she was still very happy for us and we shouldn't feel guilty about it. I guess my best advise is just to ask your friend if she still wants to be involved in the shower or if she needs a little time to grieve first. Let her know that you totally understand either way and just don't want to make things any harder for her. I think it really helps to have someone acknowledge your loss after a miscarriage. So many people don't know how to act and kind of pretend it never happened. I'm sure just letting her know you are thinking of her will help immensely.
Amysue, Have you checked out www.spinningbabies.com ? It has great resources for baby positioning. I'm sure 32 weeks is still too early to worry about baby turning or not, but if you can convince your little one to get into a more comfortable position for you, it can't hurt!
AnyaRose, Sorry, I have no information for you. but I'll be thinking of you and Nico! I've definitely heard of excess fluid build up around the brain, but it seems like it can range from a very serious complication to a total false alarm, just as you said. Hopefully you get clarification and a clean bill of health for Nico very soon so you can stop worrying. I think you've been through enough this pregnancy without adding any additional worry!
Judybean, I'm with you on the nesting. I have a very strong urge to clean and declutter, but it's been to flippin' hot for the last few days to do anything. Our basement is usually my husband's domain (he's a musician so has all his stuff set up down there) but I think I'm going to tackle it tomorrow just to give us a place to get out of the heat.
AFM, I'm hot, tired, grumpy from lack of sleep, my house is a total disaster, my feet are swelling, and best of all, my thighs are chafing. lol. I know what we are dealing with here is nothing compared to the heat some of you have been experiencing, but we have no AC and I'm just not dealing well with temps in the 95+ range. What I have the most problem with is that it's staying so hot at night. It's almost 7PM and it's still over 90F. That's way too hot for this northern girl. I'm trying to decide if it's worth cleaning out the spare room so we can sleep in the basement tonight, but I went down there earlier and for some reason there's a bunch of sawdust on the bed and I don't really want to deal with that right now. So, basically what it comes down to is I'm whining. lol. On the bright side the rolling black outs that we're supposed to be having haven't hit us yet, so at least our fan is still running.
Babywise, I think everthing's good. S/he switched positions again so I'm not feeling as much movement as I was a few days ago, but still enough to be reassuring. I'm really working on staying hydrated, to try to limit the braxton hicks and the swelling. Otherwise just chugging along and just a couple days until 30 weeks!