Hello, this situation is already passed and no one (that I know of) is upset with me or anything -- but I keep wondering if I should have done something differently. So I thought I'd ask for everyone's thoughts in order to have ideas for any similar situations in the future.
After church on Sundays, we've been going straight to a city pool that is free on Sunday afternoons; our church is about midway between our home and this pool, so we eat a snack in the car and go straight there to save on gas. We also give a ride to a family that lives near the church, and we'd invited anyone from this family who wanted to, to come swimming with us.
So this Sunday when we were driving our friends home, it turned out that three of the children plus the 18yo nephew who was visiting wanted to come swimming. My girls and I were thrilled to have the company, these are very nice kids -- but I mentioned to my friend, in the hearing of her nephew, that they might not let the nephew swim in the shorts he had on because, based on our experience with a different city pool, I thought the pool staff might insist on proper swimming attire.
She didn't have any trunks at her house that would fit him, and said she thought he could just tell them that they were his swimming trunks, and he agreed with this idea, so we dropped my friend and her baby off at home and headed to the pool.
It turned out that they wouldn't allow him to swim in his shorts, so he took a nap in the shade next to the pool while the rest of us swam for about two hours. I felt rather badly for him, but didn't want to add on another 30 minutes by driving him home (about 15 minutes to back track to my friend's house and another 15 to go back to the pool), because I wanted to make it home by around 4 in order to have some "at home" chill time for myself -- and, of course, we are trying to conserve gas by avoiding unnecessary trips.
It was rather hot -- 90-some degrees, but there were showers in the bathrooms and he could have drenched himself in there if he got too hot.
I know that, in his shoes, I would have been seriously bummed out to be out there in that heat and not be able to get into the pool. At the same time, if anyone had so much as hinted that I might not be allowed into the pool in what I had on, I would have opted to hang out in the coolness of my aunt's house. I simply wouldn't have taken the risk of getting stuck like that.
He never complained, and this friend and her kids are planning to come with us next time, so I don't think anyone's hurt or upset with me over this. But I'm just wondering what other folks would have done in this situation.
Edited by mammal_mama - 7/9/12 at 2:57pm