I'll try to be brief. I have a 4yr old DS and 10 mnth old DD. Ds has recently started hitting, scratching, kicking, biting, etc Targets are (in descending order) usually me, DD, DH, or other friends. This isn't all out violence. It's more that he is doing something he's not supposed to, or in the case of DD, doing it just enough to make her cry - at which point he runs away laughing. But it's not fun and games either.
There are plenty of reasons for him to be having a tough time: newly mobile baby, traveling for 5 wks (while fun, definitely caused some stress all around), house guest for 3 wks. My question is what do I DO to make it through this stage?
I'm feelng like I:
- can't have friends over (because he starts to hit, poke, grab them)
- can't trust him on playdates (ok, so mostly I can, but I get embarrassed about this sort of misbehavior, and it's just less fun)
- have trouble connecting with him when he's upset because he tries to kick me (while screaming that he wants to be in my lap)
- can't ever put DD down, and she really wants to crawl around and play with DS
I'm not sure if this is really a discipline question or a parenting question, but I'll start here. Thanks so much for any insights!
PS I do try to get 15 min of 1-1 time in per day. I mostly succeed. I don't see a big change in DS's behavior, but it does remind me how much I really do like being with that little person!