DS is 15 months old. His new stage of development is really challenging for me. I have been told by other mothers that i have a "high need" and "active" little boy. I would agree. He is constantly testing my limits. I feel like I say no to him all day long.
He hits constantly. I try saying "that hurts mommy please don't hit," and showing him how to be gentle instead and show him how i am gentle to him. He just laughs and hits again soon. I'm ashamed to admit that lately I have been yelling no at him and putting him on the ground while he cries.
When i tell him not to touch something (the outlets & other things like that) he does it anyway. I have a lot of people telling me i need to be harsher with him and discipline him. The other day i flicked his hand after he wouldn't listen multiple times. This is not me. This is not the mother that i wanted to be. I don't know what to do.
The other thing that is hard is that he throws his food on the floor. I know that this is a normal developmental thing, and I hoped when i reached this stage that i could appreciate it for what it is, but the hard part is that i honestly cannot afford to replace the food that he throws most of the time. We are very low income, I am a single mother and a full time student. I am having a hard time deciding what to do about this, because obviously he doesn't understand that we have no money for food (lol).
Is there such a thing as discipline for his age? i never would have thought that before but now i am out of ideas, and be getting so frustrated that i blow up is obviously not a good option.
i feel like i abandoned all of the values i held so high when my son was born. I never could have imagined myself acting the way that i do towards him now with such a short temper and such little understanding. I need to get back to the way i set out to parent, I'm just not sure how to do that right now.