Originally Posted by JENinOR
Springmum, I'm sorry, I sincerely hope I did not come across as cosleeping is best, because I really don't think that way...just explaining what works for us and why. Blankets over baby would be so scary! That's great to know about those monitors. Thank you as I do use a playpen by my bed for naps when babe starts to move around and eventually at babe's "bedtime" and dh and I decide we want the luxury of getting into bed later without a baby waiting for us. :P I do bring babe to bed and give him a good nursing before I go to bed though-hopefully for a nice long stretch of sleep afterwards! that's the thought anyway, lol.
p.s. as an aside, I will add just for those who are co-sleeping that it's "safer" for babe to use his/her own blankets vs using mom and dads. just and fyi if you weren't aware, but feel free to disregard the "experts" and do what you feel comfortable with, of course!!
Jen - no worries at all, I didn't mean to come across as crusty- hard to convey the right tone in writing (and I think DS was driving me a bit batty just before I sat down) I think it's great sharing tips on how to make things better, or work a little differently if something is going right - you really seem to have found some good tricks:)
To be honest, before DS was born I felt a lot of pressure about co-sleeping b/c it was better, but I learned quickly that we have to do what is right for baby and us, and more importantly do it safely. I only read stories that bad things happening to babies in their parents bed were the parents mistake (did something unsafe), mother's always have good instincts, it's best for baby etc etc. While I agree with those, I was very surprised and little rattled to see that falling into such a deep sleep next to my newborn meant I had to put just an arms reach distance between us to make it work well. I am a big advocate of co-sleeping vs baby alone their room across the house. My definition of co-sleeping is just that it can mean baby sleeping beside your bed too, not just tucked up in the bed - and that it can always change based on needs.
At the end of the day when DS got bigger he would start in the crib (against our bed) then move into our bed for the rest of the night. He still starts out in his own bed (in his own room now) but at some point in the night/early morning makes his way into ours :)