I just found this group. I'm very nervous because my last pregnancy ended in a MC at 12 weeks. I'm 8w 4d. I have a 5 yo DD and a 2.5 yo DD.
I had a c-section with my first for a long list of reasons including
U/S dating pushed the due date up (NEVER let an U/S push your due date up. Back, yes, up, no).
Failure of the OB to wait
My own inexperience not trusting my heart.
I had a VBAC (attempted HBAC) with my second and it was cathartic and healing and awesome (but too long and I had dehydration and exhaustion after 57 hours). I will be going for an HBAC this time again. I recommend reading books like Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth, anything by Ina May Gaskin, and Pushed. Learn about how safe and normal birth is and believe. I took Birthing From Within classes (and read the book) regarding my affirmations. And when faced with an unplanned hospital transfer and an OB badgering and threatening me to submit to a c-section, my DH and I were able to stand up and say "my uterus WILL NOT explode, my body was MADE to birth babies, get OUT".
So, having a homebirth doesn't scare me, because I know I won't have to fight anyone during labor regarding my capabilities. Going to the hospital scares me.
Get involved with your local ICAN group, if you have one. And make sure you hire a doula who will support, and not hinder, you.
Best of luck to you.