Right now DP and I are struggling to make a difficult decision. We are in too deep to be able to look at things objectively, so help me if you will please.
DP lost both of her jobs. We were barely making it before it happened and now there is no way we can continue. She has filed for unemployment and is getting it from the first job she lost. Now that she has lost the second one, the won't give her unemployment for the second (which was the higher paying of the two). She has been out applying for every job she can find and we haven't had any luck. Here are the two scenarios we have..
Option one. Stay where we are. We have 6 months left on our lease, I have about 4 months of my orthodontist treatment left. We try to figure out how to ride it out. Hopefully next month she and I will both start college and we pray that nothing goes wrong and we ride it out on student loans. In January we try to find a cheaper house.
Option two. We break our lease and move to a different state with my mom. We wouldn't have to pay rent, however, it isn't "free" by any means. We would have to deal with my younger brothers and sisters, there re-occurring lice problem, their 7 inside/outside non-flee treated dogs, constantly defending my parenting choices, etc. I would also have to put my kids into public school since its not really legal to home school in said state, also thinking forward midwifery is illegal, second parent adoption, and nursing in public. It Basically everything that is "me" or my ideals, I would have to give up for cheaper rent. I would also have to drive 10 hours for my orthodontist appointments, because I cant transfer practices.
I know it sounds like my mind is made up, but it really isn't. I keep thinking about what if she doesn't find a job or something happens with our loans, how are we going to pay bills? Is the cheaper rent in the long run worth everything that is definitive to my identity?
I applied for food stamps tonight. Is there anything else that can help us get through this time until she gets another job? We live minimally as it is, no car payment, credit cards, we have a roommate etc. Just doesn't seem like its ever "enough" help!