Okay well I am back quicker than I thought I would be. :)
I found all my notes from the 2011 ICAN conference.
The two speakers that come to mind and that I remember the most clearly are Isa Herrera and Pam England.
Isa Herrera spoke to the physical healing after a cesarean surgery. She wrote the book "Ending Female Pain." She advocates for physical therapy immediately and longer after the birth. I have 3+ pages of messy notes on her suggestions of what to do immediately following a C-S to help your body heal and scar heal properly. I can type them out if anyone is interested PM me.
Pam England's session was titled "Nine Birth Story Gates." The nine birth gates are
Gate of love: no story
Gate of the Huntress (who was I before? who am I now?)
Gate of pride/ Forgiveness
Revolving door of Judge and VIctim (you alternate between judging yourself and those who were around you and feeling like a victim)
Gate of medical story (you tell people only the medical basics when you are asked or it comes up)
Gate of Social Story (you tell a brief story, not too medical not too emotionally deep)
Gate of relationships
Gate of relief, gratitude, and fruit
Gate of no story
I was really wrapped up in her talk, sometimes crying, mostly focusing and listening. I did not take many notes unfortunately. I will put my notes in parentheses.
I emailed whoever runs Pam England's website and she had no idea what I was referring to.
I am bummed about two things 1) I cannot find any more info. on the 9 birth story gates, I really related to everything she said. 2) ICAN did not come through (as far as I know) with their promise of the video recordings being online accessible to ICAN members. That didn't happen. I emaied back and forth a few times with some ICAN person and nothing came of it.
Not sure if this adds anything to the conversation. If anyone finds out more info. about Pam England's take on the emotional stages after a cesarean (now that I think about it, perhaps this could be applied to all birth stories in some way?)