Mine has done a 180 from when I used to work. He literally comes home, tells me i am a bad mom in any way possible. (The way you nurse is giving him an ear infection. Your hair is too long it is going to choke him in his sleep) Then does nothing.... I MEAN NOTHING! He used to help me clean and do stuff for himself. Now he can't make his own coffee or get his work clothes ready. He has 0 interest in DS he holds him for maybe 10 minutes every other day or so. If i ask him to do anything he says no. Even if its to hold the fussy baby so I can go pee he will not do it. I have tried to talk to him about it and he tells me that because I got to lay down in my pregnancy ( I was on bed rest having constant contractions for 7 months.) that he should be able to take a year and rest now. My mother came to the house and cleaned it twice a week. My brother came over and built all the baby furniture. I was in the hospital for 4 of the 7 months. I don't understand what hes thinking or saying. We planned this baby. FOR A YEAR! The reason I get to stay home is because while on bedrest I got paid. I was paid until feb this year. He does not make enough money for his bills. THe money we have in our savings is from me I get to stay home because of this savings. He has recently started freaking out about money. He asked me where a pair of cuticle clippers came from that i bought before we were together. Accusing me of buying them. I have budgeted us out until march 2013.... We are 3000 over that budget. He wont listen to me, he doesn't help me.
Where did my loving man go? The one who cried tears of joy when I found out I was pregnant. The one who was with me when we lost babies. The man who save my life. Who used to cook for me. Who would clean to make my day better when I got home from work? The one who filled out my 100 question multiple choice test of whether or not we were ready to try again? The one who loved my family? Who begged me to move 2000 miles to be with him for two years. The one who called me every night? Emailed me every day? The one who asked to babysit for my friend so he could get a feeling for what babies are like? The one who bought me a breast pump so he could let me sleep.
My sister says I am just cooped up all day so I see him in a bad light. But facts are facts. Its so sad watching my son light up when his dad is home only to be ignored. Not only that he is ignored by his dad but now I have to wait on him hand and foot and don't spend time with the baby as much either. I feel like a slave. He walked in today, (Today I focused on the bathroom and bedroom for cleaning) and kicks some toys complaining the house is messy. Then I have to wash the toys because his boots are dirty and the baby can't play with those toys now. I JUST WANT TO SCREAM AND YELL AND PACK MY BABY UP SO WE CAN HAVE SOME POSITIVE ATMOSPHERE! I dread him coming home from work and I can't wait for him to leave in the morning. I guess this turned into more of a rant. Sorry.