After becoming pregnant, I left my ex because he was verbally, physically, and sexually abusive. I tried to leave him countless times prior to becoming pregnant, but because he raped me early on in the relationship, I felt stuck...or more like enchained, really. Once I became pregnant, I felt like my child's safety waS of the utmost priority and I ended the relationship. I didn't hear from my ex for months, then his father began threatening myself and my family via email and phone messages when I was unresponsive to a couple of harassing e-mails he had sent me. The threats included saying they would take my baby from me, that I was an unfit mother, that the allegations I made against their son were false, and that I better have the protective order removed. When we were unresponsive, they eventually sent private investigators to my mother's home, where they believed I was living. My child was born and shortly thereafter was the scheduled hearing for the protective order I had been able to obtain ex parte. At the hearing, the judge found favor with me, but removed it because my ex lives out of the state I live in. During our relationship, he made comments to me like, "you deserve to die!" repeatedly. Because of comments like that, his abusive behavior, and my concern for my life and my child's life, I moved immediately after the hearing.
I suspected that because of their threats, they would likely pursue establishing paternity and custody. I never reported the rape because I was so ashamed and had a really difficult time even accepting what had happened and until our relationship ended, I wasn't able to call it what it was.
Fast forward to today and my child and I live a very quiet and simple life. We live a happy life, but I have learned that my ex and his family, have somehow managed to get a body attachment placed to my name. I only know this information because I have friends who work in the courthouse. I have not been served this information by way of mail or a sheriff. However, the court considers me served because the call for my appearance in court was placed in the newspaper. I never saw it. I don't read the paper, ever. Nevertheless, they consider me served. This means, if I'm pulled over while driving, I will be arrested and placed in jail for up to 30 days until a hearing date. I don't know what would happen to my child, but I suspect CPS or to my ex. If my child were with my ex, I'm certain I would never see my baby again.
I have done my research and I know rapists are rarely convicted and if convicted, they still receive "parental rights" in many states. Because my ex's family is wealthy, I feel that the charges against my name have been obtained by way of paying people to make the decisions they want made. I know that's a strong statement to make, but every lawyer and officer of the law I've spoken with about my situation is stunned that they have been able to obtain things like a birth certificate (when I never had my child's birth recorded), and visitation rights when, again, there is no record of my chid's birth, and now a body attachment to my name. And lastly, I've learned by way of a friend who knows the magistrate who made the decision for a body attachment to be placed on my name that he has been paid to remove someone from their employment position in the past. I hope that's all clear. It's difficult for me to wrap my mind around at times.
I don't have a typical job, so I cannot be found by way of my job through a private investigator or any other form of records. Even still, I am concerned for my life and what might happen to myself and my child if we are "found" so to speak. Another important detail is that after my ex's family had been unsuccessful in finding us, they went to facebook and posted that I and my child were missing! When in actuality, I'm doing everything I can do give my child a safe future.
I am being hunted by wicked and power-hungry people and I'm wondering what suggestions any fellow mother's may have.
Thanks for taking the time to read and response. I really appreciate it.