Hi,
Discipline comes from the latin word to teach. Instead of threats, rewards, punishments,consequences , being firm etc try to just deal with the issues at hand and solve problem in a collaborative way. Collaborative problem solving is not easy but the kid is learning skills along the way, problems are being solved and most important your relationship is being fostered.
check out collaborative problem solving . IMHO , it the how behind positive discipline , unconditional parenting etc
I hope this helps
Mary
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