I've been a solo mama for 9 years, had 2 long term relationships during those 9 years and have met 90% of all the men I have dated online. I was at 2 years celibacy until April. Previously, the longest I had ever gone without was 6 months. But, I made a conscious decision to be celibate for a year after realizing that my head, heart and body were just not in sync based on some bad choices I was making and how nasty I was feeling afterwards. So, I wanted to take a break from dating and sex to get more clear about myself and what I wanted. It became two years because I became very comfortable on my own, super passionate about my new career, just didn't want to share any of my limited time with anyone else. Honestly, I was also afraid I would slip back into my unhealthy patterns. Basically, I went to the opposite side of the spectrum.
I haven't been with anyone since that one incident in April (it sucked and we both ended the dating relationship -- just not a good match at all), but I am dating someone else right now. The celibacy stint has helped me to realize I want intimacy, not just sex and that intimacy requires quality time spent together building trust, friendship and togetherness. Having survived 2 years without and learning other methods (thank you BOB!) to meet my "needs," I am better able to hold off my carnal desires to allow for the building of intimacy in the relationship.