I have a problem that I urgently need to resolve: when I need to speak with other adults, whether friends, co-workers, authorities...., about issues that may be unpleasant or an opinion I need to defend I almost always end up crying. Not that I'm hurt by the topic, but it's like my mind and body express my unease in this way (rather than get really really angry like most people do), and I really can't find a way to fight back the tears. This is REALLY bothering me, I don't feel like a proper adult in these situations and my credibilty and ability to defend my ideas just CRUMBLES.
The situation in general is improving in the sense the I don't AVOID these conversations, but at a certain point I can feel the tears coming and THIS IS WHERE I NEED A TOOL/IDEA SOMETHING TO STOP THEM FROM COMING. I fight them back, but it ususally means keeping my mouth shut, otherwise they start coming. But I can't keep my mouth shut because I have to keep defending my argument, or whatever is being discussed!
I HATE this reaction I have, I'm a grown woman, I am separated from my husband and have two children, I work full time, and for these reasons I have converstions with adults on touchy subjects almost DAILY, just like anyone else.
Any suggestions on a mental image or thought that will allow me fight back the tears when I feel them coming?
Any help greatly appreciated!