As I had said in an earlier post on this thread, I would ask a different question...reframe if you will. Is it about cure? I don't know. Of course, some people are born with brains who react to stimuli in a manner different then others....the world has many different types of people, different types of thinkers. And who would necessarily want to cure their child of "concrete" thinking like my child is and probably always will be. Those who think more concretely are the "grounded" people in this world and I appreciate that about him.
I think what I am trying to say is investigate, think about what kind of triggers this world has in it, that can make inattentiveness, impulsiveness and irritability more extreme in your child then their grandparent who the trait may have come from. I know that this is true in our family. These traits don't necessarily appear out of no where but they are so much more extreme then a generation ago.
And anyone who has ever done dietary change in their family knows there is nothing "mere" about it. It is a monumental commitment to live in the world differently and not accepting just anything as nurturing or sustaining. You have to say no to almost every cake at a birthday, almost every dinner at a friend's, unless they can cook what you can eat. And I wanted to share my journey because they perceive it as so hard most people give up and don't allow the changes to set in. Is that blaming people who give up. No, I gave up many times. I don't blame myself. I acknowledge that things differently is hard and you don't get a lot of support for it from the world at large.
And then I would say, what is wrong with seeking to "cure"? And why would it be mine or a parent's failure if they can't. It is worth trying.
I fear that in today's world we are accepting as a new normal the idea that our children have numerous and frequent autoimmune issues (often co-morbid with ADHD/Autism) which are a "full body" inflammation problem that often doctors do not recognize and treat as part of the same "whole person" problem. We are also accepting a new normal of early precocious puberty in very young girls and food that is genetically modified etc etc and the list can get very long if you start.
Homeopathic medicine treats the "whole person" and I prefer it to other "allopathic" choices. I like to ask different questions and not accept conventional wisdom at face value. I won't shirk the extra responsibility that goes along with it, in the same way that because of my choices, I have to say "religious exemption" when the doctor asks about my children's vaccine status.
Of course there is a place for medication in life, for diabetics who require it or for those with ADHD. I think that we are saying the same thing but coming at it from a different angle. Both are equally true and should be equally considered. I know diabetics in our family who think that giving up soda is a good way to treat their diabetes and still eat every other thing made of sugar or converting to sugar. They willingly take the medication offered hoping they don't then have to change any other part of the way that they do things. I know that isn't what YOU are saying, but, many do.
I would more willingly accept the feeling of "blame" or I can do more, as the flip side of "responsibility" then not look deeper and to not look more closely. And of course, this feeling can be misused in the same way that vaccine proponents can blame unvaccinated for measles or whooping cough outbreaks when a large percentage of people who contract it have been fully vaccinated.
It is part of life, blame/responsibility....for personal choices...Reframe it. It doesn't have to trap you in inaction. That's all I ever would suggest.