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post #21 of 25

As I had said in an earlier post on this thread, I would ask a different question...reframe if you will.  Is it about cure?  I don't know.  Of course, some people are born with brains who react to stimuli in a manner different then others....the world has many different types of people, different types of thinkers.  And who would necessarily want to cure their child of "concrete" thinking like my child is and probably always will be.  Those who think more concretely are the "grounded" people in this world and I appreciate that about him. 

 

I think what I am trying to say is investigate, think about what kind of triggers this world has in it, that can make inattentiveness, impulsiveness and irritability more extreme in your child then their grandparent who the trait may have come from.  I know that this is true in our family.  These traits don't necessarily appear out of no where but they are so much more extreme then a generation ago.

 

And anyone who has ever done dietary change in their family knows there is nothing "mere" about it.  It is a monumental commitment to live in the world differently and not accepting just anything as nurturing or sustaining.  You have to say no to almost every cake at a birthday, almost every dinner at a friend's, unless they can cook what you can eat.  And I wanted to share my journey because they perceive it as so hard most people give up and don't allow the changes to set in.  Is that blaming people who give up.  No, I gave up many times.  I don't blame myself.  I acknowledge that things differently is hard and you don't get a lot of support for it from the world at large.

 

And then I would say, what is wrong with seeking to "cure"?  And why would it be mine or a parent's failure if they can't.  It is worth trying. 

 

I fear that in today's world we are accepting as a new normal the idea that our children have numerous and frequent autoimmune issues (often co-morbid with ADHD/Autism) which are a "full body" inflammation problem that often doctors do not recognize and treat as part of the same "whole person" problem.  We are also accepting a new normal of early precocious puberty in very young girls and food that is genetically modified etc etc and the list can get very long if you start. 

 

Homeopathic medicine treats the "whole person" and I prefer it to other "allopathic" choices.  I like to ask different questions and not accept conventional wisdom at face value.  I won't shirk the extra responsibility that goes along with it, in the same way that because of my choices, I have to say "religious exemption" when the doctor asks about my children's vaccine status.

 

Of course there is a place for medication in life, for diabetics who require it or for those with ADHD. I think that we are saying the same thing but coming at it from a different angle.  Both are equally true and should be equally considered.  I know diabetics in our family who think that giving up soda is a good way to treat their diabetes  and still eat every other thing made of sugar or converting to sugar.  They willingly take the medication offered hoping they don't then have to change any other part of the way that they do things.  I know that isn't what YOU are saying, but, many do. 

 

I would more willingly accept the feeling of "blame" or I can do more, as the flip side of "responsibility" then not look deeper and to not look more closely.  And of course, this feeling can be misused in the same way that vaccine proponents can blame unvaccinated for measles or whooping cough outbreaks when a large percentage of people who contract it have been fully vaccinated. 

 

It is part of life, blame/responsibility....for personal choices...Reframe it.  It doesn't have to trap you in inaction.  That's all I ever would suggest.

post #22 of 25

While I understand what you are saying, I think parents are more vilified for what is perceived to be just throwing pills at their children.  While I am a HUGE supporter of medication for ADHD (as myself, my husband and son have all benefited from it), we didn't just decide one day that he was out of control and ask the doc to write a script.  He's been under the care of a developmental pediatrician since he was 3.5 years old.  We tried all manner of dietary changes with the only success being food dyes which are now not a part of any of our diets.  We tried some homeopathic remedies.  Nothing.  We had seen several specialist who classified him as being "at risk for ADHD" due to his young age.  

 

We discovered last year that our son has a genetic deletion and decided to participate in a study to get more feedback.  The lead researcher herself is a huge supporter of holistic medicine and has even written papers on the topic.  She told us that she rarely diagnosis ADHD because it's over diagnosed in her opinion  She explained her love of holistic medicine.  With that she said "your son has severe ADHD and he needs medication now".  We went home, called the developmental pediatrician who spent the next two weeks researching all the meds to pick out the ones he wanted us to start with and went from there.  He's now on his third drug which allows him to eat, sleep and be himself but give him the ability to pay attention and attend to his tasks.  

 

Yet I still get from people how terrible it is that I have a six year old (now 7) on stimulants.  How it can effect his growth (he grew an inch in 6 months) negatively.  How I'm just a lazy parent who can't accept my kid for who he is.  We've asked him whether or not he likes his concentration medication - he tells us he likes it cause it lets him listen to the neat stuff the teacher talks about and he can color better (longer) and he is learning new things and he likes to learn.  If that makes me terrible, I'm terrible and proud of it.

 

If someone could wave a magic wand and "cure" myself, my son and husband - I'd love it.  Living with ADHD is not fun.  I wasn't medicated till 42.  I couldn't read a book for more than a few minutes at a time.  I was a terrible student in school.  Back then it wasn't ADHD, it was stupid and lazy (plus I have dyslexia).  My son will never have to experience that and for that I'm grateful.

 

~puts away soapbox~

post #23 of 25

And funny, I get the opposite.  I get judged for searching for answers outside conventional wisdom.  People are curious but they say, I can never do that....isn't that hard.  I don't know anyone that judges parents for putting their child on a medication only "withholding" it is judged.  Isn't the point that judgment should be reserved for neglect and being discerning about yourself and your own choices should not be mistaken for being judgmental and that one person's answers are not always TRUE for another person.  I believe in trusting myself and my own wisdom....which is what I started with.  I would hope that everyone can trust themselves too.  We all have a story and we all can learn from each other but ultimately I think that we have a quiet inner voice that tells us what we need to know.  

 

Off MY soap box now...  ;) 

 

Peace out.
 

post #24 of 25

Well said Living!  

post #25 of 25

Two things - growing up I had a father who believe the food coloring and excessive sugar was bad Thank GOODNESS

 

to this day as a 50 something I hardly ever drink Coke - if I have one I might be traveling or not well - My children have said "MOM you're drinking Coke?" (we have it at home my husband likes it)

 

Second thing: when my youngest was born I knew from day one he was different.  He was an active young boy - around 1st grade he was diagnosed Dyslexic - and of course many people would say oh he's ADHD - well because of my up bringing it was relatively easy for me to eliminate many products with coloring and sugar - Cereal was the biggest issue - but through a lot of perseverance on my part we SURVIVED.   When he was diagnosed with dyslexia I had a long discussion with our Pead about ADHD and we did the questionnaire, only one teacher reported things that other's didn't.  So the doctor felt he wasn't ADHD even though he was active he felt that much of had it to do with the fact reading was so difficult for him.

 

if you plan to go this route I would caution you on some of the 'sugar free' substances - I have found that some of them affect my throat.  I can tolerate Stevia.  But some of the man made have an effect, and my boys notice it too.  Interestingly enough my oldest son is allergic to Red Dye 40 - we discovered this by accident when away in Alaska on a trip - the lodge offered the children fruit punch made from a mix (something I would never give them) the reaction was so bad I thought we might have to fly him out of the remote part where we were! anyway he survived but we learned that Red dye too much of it has a dreadful effect on him and is in many products. 

 

You learn to read labels and you shop in different stores and try different products and cook a lot from scratch.  

 

When my boys were old enough I once caught my self saying to my Dyslexic son "look what you do when we go down the cereal isle"  "you get all excited and hyper active and start screaming at me because I refuse to buy you fruit loops"  - he eventually at around 6 GOT IT.  I used to avoid the cereal isle if I had them with me.  I couldn't bare to hear that they needed the Toucan Cereal or the Lion or whatever was the latest advertising targeting them!

 

doctors are always amazed that I am sensitive to my body and it's needs I sometimes think this is because I've not filled it with chemicals and sugar!! 

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