Thanks everyone for the responses. I have talked with her teacher but her teacher tells me that she hasn't really noticed anything. I'm not surprised as she is in a large class (dd said 29 kids, who knows for sure) and there just hasn't been enough time for her teacher to gauge what is "normal" for each child. She didn't really have any ideas on how to help her adjust, just that it's "normal". I set up a time to come visit the classroom in action. I hope that I can kind of sneak in without dd1 realizing it and observe a bit before dd1 realizes I am there. I am committed to homeschooling, if that's what she needs. Yes, things can change and homeschooling may no longer work for us for whatever reason but there are lots of things that *could* change in our lives. I feel that there are enough resources out there that if one is dedicated to homeschooling, it can generally be done. Either online, with another homeschooling family, dual enrollment, etc.
I'm fairly certain that we are going to pull her at the end of next week. While she may adjust, it's doubtful to me that she will ever truly enjoy it at this stage in her life. We have options now and while they may not last, for the forseeable future it works for us. I see that most won't agree but it's what works for us:)