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post #21 of 39

good golly, my positive anniversary isn't until mid-august!!  I even took a test on august 3rd that didn't show positive so i went to DH's show and got, i'll admit, pretty drunk. I felt guilty about that afterward. sooooo glad rosebud is now happy and healthy... phew!

 

also day: congrats on the improvements with poo and gassiness! I had oversupply at first and have been block feeding ever since. I don't think i really have to anymore but it works for us so i'm sticking with it!

post #22 of 39

I'm impressed with you all knowing the day you found out. I had all that information in an app on my phone but then my phone had to be replaced so all that information was lost.

 

Sorry I haven't been around. Coraline got sick for the first time ever and then we were getting ready to go and then we drove to north carolina. The first day was okay and was actually the longer drive, the second day wasn't so awesome. there was a LOT of crying. Now I am here and I love it, we haven't really done anything as it is only my second day. I miss my house a little and my husband a lot, but since I regularly go a week without seeing him it's not like this is something new, after weeks and not seeing him it will get sucky. My sisters belly is super awesome and I can';t wait to meet my niece. I am hoping my sister has her close to her due date, although I know she is hoping to have the baby later.

 

I have read through and I am following along with you all,sorry I'm not responding but I still have a ton to do with getting settled in the house.

post #23 of 39
I’m coming up on the anniversary of getting the positive. I woke up that morning convinced that the IVF hadn’t worked and took a digital test—which showed an error message. It wasn’t until I got the blood test that I found out I was actually pregnant. I cried and then picked out a children’s book and a huge bouquet of flowers to give my wife—it was so hard spending all day lying about getting the results (I just kept saying they hadn’t called me yet) but worth it to see her face when she walked in and saw the book. We did the math on E’s three month birthday—she was born exactly 9 months to the day after she was conceived, which seems cool to me (and even makes up for the ‘extra’ week of pregnancy!). I love reading everyone’s stories! So many different paths!
post #24 of 39

Hey all, I've been away for a few weeks, and am going out of town again for 2 more weeks, but wanted to pop in and say hi.  I miss you ladies when I'm gone.  We are all doing well. I'm dealing with some 'discipline' issues with my 5 year old. It seems he can't hear me, ever, if I ever say anything he doesn't feel like hearing. I am constantly reminding myself that I want his heart, not necessarily his obedience, but wouldn't it be nice if having his heart meant I had his obedience as well???  I've also started taking my placenta in full force again, hoping that that will calm my anger towards him.  I don't like feeling that way, and so far I've been able to be a pretty good mom, but sometimes I can't hear my own inner good mom voice over my own yelling. I hate that.  Atticus, on the other hand, is the most wonderful baby!  He sleeps all the time still.  He's a champ in so many ways.  I just love him.

 

Hope the rest of you are doing well.  I will have to try to check in while I'm gone, but might be radio silent for another few weeks.  Enjoy your summers!!!

post #25 of 39
Sorry for the lack of personals but this time I'm just going to vent for a second, not really an angry rant, just a place to "talk"...

I have had a REaLLY hard week this week. I miss my kids so much. I feel like all I do is juggle. Juggle kids, child care, meal prep, outings, work, work, work, choosing schools, asking for help (all the freaking time) and still feeling overwhelmed, pumping, no sleep, losing weight (actually NOT losing), exercise, kids play time, and on and on and on. I'm exhausted, depleted, and overwhelmed right now. How are u ladies keeping it all together? How are putting healthy food on the table, keeping the dishes clean, clothes washed and kids happy? How are you keeping YOU happy? Please tell me the magic answer!!!

Anyway, thanks for listening. smile.gif
post #26 of 39
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Originally Posted by chiromama01 View Post

Sorry for the lack of personals but this time I'm just going to vent for a second, not really an angry rant, just a place to "talk"...
I have had a REaLLY hard week this week. I miss my kids so much. I feel like all I do is juggle. Juggle kids, child care, meal prep, outings, work, work, work, choosing schools, asking for help (all the freaking time) and still feeling overwhelmed, pumping, no sleep, losing weight (actually NOT losing), exercise, kids play time, and on and on and on. I'm exhausted, depleted, and overwhelmed right now. How are u ladies keeping it all together? How are putting healthy food on the table, keeping the dishes clean, clothes washed and kids happy? How are you keeping YOU happy? Please tell me the magic answer!!!
Anyway, thanks for listening. smile.gif

 

I have no idea how to keep it together at the level that it was together prior to Nora's arrival. You are so not alone. Laundry languishes, meals are entirely uninspired and when I ran out of freezer meals I was in a panic. My five year old barely gets any one on one time with me and when he does I am admittedly either distracted or short on patience from feeling like I should be cleaning a toilet or planning a meal. And, I don't even have work. I hope someone has some answers. :) 

post #27 of 39
]Thanks kaismum. My week ended with dh in the ER Thursday night, and then surgery Friday morning to remove his gallbladder. Add to that my raging sinus infection and 2 kids... Not fun over here right now.....
Edited by chiromama01 - 8/4/12 at 3:40pm
post #28 of 39

Hi ladies  -

 

you all probably dont even remeber me ive been gone so long! Ive been out on maternity leave and really just need an MDC vacation! Today is my first day back at work. I cried the whole ride to work after dropping Charlotte at daycare. I thought it would be easier the second time around, but nope. It was just as heartbreaking this time. Probably even more so since Charlotte screams when she is with anyone but me - yes even DH :(.

 

I was left with some yucky issues from Charlotte's Vbac that im trying to deal with. I have extremely weak pelvic floor muscles and basically feel like i have to pee ALL THE TIME and also have stress incontinence. Im doing physical therapy, but one of the most important things I can do to feel better along with the therapy is to increase my estrogen levels which are low from BF and were abmormally low apparently even before I was pregnant. I was prescribed vaginal estrogen cream and was assured that since I had a oversupply issue, it would not negatively effect BFing. Yeah right. Within 4 days of using this cream (in tiny amounts too!!!) my supply had tanked ina drastic way. I immediately stopped the cream and I tried everything to get it back herbally ect to no avail. I had to go on domperidone and it did rebound. But every time I try to get off the Dom, it gets less and I get paranoid so I keep taking it. To me nursing my baby is more important than myself. So I guess for as long as Im nursing (DS nursed for 2.5 yrs) I will have this feeling like i have to pee all the time which really really sucks. Apparently physical therapy will help, but the estrogen is the key to recovery.

 

In anycase Chiromama - sounds like you are having a tough time! I found it hard enough to keep it all together when i was out of work. Now that Im back I am dreading how little me time I will actually have. Have no idea how I am supposed to juggle it all and figure it will be a learning curve. Hopefully things will fall into place.

 

Flav - my hormones are all over the place too!!

 

Happy to be back here with you ladies. I did miss you guys!!

post #29 of 39
Chiro—that all sucks. I’m sorry you’ve got so much going on right now! And very little is getting done at my house—or if it does I do it while grumbling about how ‘I do everything around here’ which is blatantly untrue, but there’s no way to stop myself thinking it. And that’s without even really trying to do anything extra like going to the gym. We’ve only started making an attempt to not eat every meal out recently. I think the key so far has been in deciding it’s ok to drop everything when we have time off and go do something fun, even if it means that nothing ‘important’ gets done. We may pay for it later, but it’s helping with the sanity, for sure.

Marnica—what an awful choice to have to make. I’m so sorry you’ve got to decide between caring for yourself and caring for the little one, but it sounds like you’re making the best choice for you and your family right now. Hopefully the physical therapy will help more than you expect! And I’m not looking forward to daycare. We’ve got another month and a half before that day comes, and I don’t expect it’ll be a pretty one.
post #30 of 39

chiro- I don't always handle it, I think that is the key we don't understand about other people, is that we are all just juggling. I can't imagine having to balance the kids and work, I struggle with just the kids and house and scouts and school (the kids, not mine yet). We`do the best we can and sometimes we are frazzled and sometimes we have to step back and say, NO I just can't do all this, that's why I gave up being the head of booster club at the girls school, it all got to be more than I could handle, something I had to give.

 

Marnica, I remember you. I'm so sorry things have been such a struggle.

 

HI Jenny!! I find that the 3-4 month mark is when it becomes really hard for the older sibling. I guess the cuteness of the baby wears off and they realize that life is really different forever. My 3.5 year old has become really clingy, asking to be a baby again and trying to nurse, I usually spend part of each day wearing her in my beco.

 

I'm in North Carolina, enjoying being with my twin sister. It's gorgeous up here. I love the hills and curvy roads, there is none of that in Florida. I REALLY miss my husband ( which is sort of silly because I have been away from him for longer, and I have been away from him all week long for weeks now, but I just like him so much), I also miss my house which is also silly b/c my sister's place is nicer. But I like my life, and while I am happy to be here and really looking forward to my nieces birth and helping my sister out in my heart of hearts I just want to live with Hubs again full time, all week long for months and months and years.

 

on the coraline front- I swear the child wants to crawl, she seems like she is trying to get herself into position.

post #31 of 39

Thanks for all the support ladies. It really does help.  

 

Prettyisa-thanks for commiserating! Ugh, things just are not getting done around here like they used to, but, ugh, whatever.  I give up at this point! (at least till DH is back on his feet!)

 

Marnica, I hope you get some benefit from PT.  that is such a tough spot, but i'm so glad to hear your milk supply rebounded.

 

Courtney-- I hope you're having a wonderful time awaiting your niece's arrival! It sounds beautiful and your sister is lucky to have you! Collin is also trying to pull his knees up under himself to crawl.  I just can't believe how quickly the time is going by. They're so big already!

 

 

AFM: I'm trying to figure out why Collin eats twice as much with my mom as he does with any other care giver.  Literally, I was at work for 4 hours today, and mom fed him 12oz.  OMG.  I only pumped 5! When my sitter keeps him, he will eat exactly as much as I pump. I don't want to tell my mom she's doing it wrong, but oh my goodness, I certainly don't have enough of a stash for him to eat 2x what i can pump every time i'm away.  On sunday, I went to the grocery while mom kept him and I was gone for 1 hour, and in that hour she fed him 6oz.  This is really starting to stress me out.  Any suggestions?  

post #32 of 39

I'd suggest feeding him right before you leave and telling her that he doesn't need to eat when you are only going to be gone 1 hour, that is just silly. Suggest other ways for him to soothe him. It sounds like she isn't even trying anything else and just going right for the food. I'm not good at gently getting to the point unfortunately, I come in hard or shy away from the subject and build up resentment, maybe someone who is quite diplomatic can suggest a talking point that can get you gently to the point. 

 

speaking of pumping, I need to go hand express some. I need to build up a stash here in North Carolina b/c Cora will stay with my sister's MIL while I'm at her birth. I really wanted to buy a pump, I would be able to get a really nice pump ( the pump in style maybe, it's a medela double electric) for $120 including shipping but sadly it's not possible. It might be useful if I get to go to school like I want, but I'm not positive I'll be doing that yet and we can't justify the expense, so then I suggested a $40 single pump one and still just not in the position. I guess it doesn't make sense to get something I don't NEED since I can hand express, but*sigh* sometimes making do sucks, sometimes I'm proud of the making do and other times I'm just sick of it.  It's harder around people who don't have to make do. I'm not trying to be a complainer, I truly appreciate that my husband works so  hard, the girls I have and our many blessings. In the way of feelings and friends we are truly rich, we have a fortuitous life when it comes to our girls education and the things we truly need, I know that, but damnit I just want a fancy pump too. lol. and maybe a little i want to keep up with the Joneses, to show yes, we can get this too, we aren't sad and destitute; which is stupid and not how i usually am.

post #33 of 39
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Originally Posted by Thursday Girl View Post

I'd suggest feeding him right before you leave and telling her that he doesn't need to eat when you are only going to be gone 1 hour, that is just silly. Suggest other ways for him to soothe him. It sounds like she isn't even trying anything else and just going right for the food. I'm not good at gently getting to the point unfortunately, I come in hard or shy away from the subject and build up resentment, maybe someone who is quite diplomatic can suggest a talking point that can get you gently to the point. 

 

speaking of pumping, I need to go hand express some. I need to build up a stash here in North Carolina b/c Cora will stay with my sister's MIL while I'm at her birth. I really wanted to buy a pump, I would be able to get a really nice pump ( the pump in style maybe, it's a medela double electric) for $120 including shipping but sadly it's not possible. It might be useful if I get to go to school like I want, but I'm not positive I'll be doing that yet and we can't justify the expense, so then I suggested a $40 single pump one and still just not in the position. I guess it doesn't make sense to get something I don't NEED since I can hand express, but*sigh* sometimes making do sucks, sometimes I'm proud of the making do and other times I'm just sick of it.  It's harder around people who don't have to make do. I'm not trying to be a complainer, I truly appreciate that my husband works so  hard, the girls I have and our many blessings. In the way of feelings and friends we are truly rich, we have a fortuitous life when it comes to our girls education and the things we truly need, I know that, but damnit I just want a fancy pump too. lol. and maybe a little i want to keep up with the Joneses, to show yes, we can get this too, we aren't sad and destitute; which is stupid and not how i usually am.

 

Courtney - I can appreciate how you feel. I think no matter what ones financial situation is (unless one is very wealthy anyway) they probably feel like this at times. I know I do. I live in one of the most expensive areas of the country. Real estate is is RIDICULOUS. My husband and I both have to work full tme to sustain a decent lifestyle and provide for our kids. There are alot of folks around here that are far better off than we are and at times that is hard for me because I want something that we just can't afford. However I also know we are incredibly blessed and there are people around me who have lost their jobs and as a result their homes, so I try to focus of what is good in my life and not worry about the other stuff because at the end of the day we have what we need. But boy some days I sure would like to replace our back fence that was taken out by a bad storm over a year ago.....

 

Chiro - maybe your DS is just more comfortable with your mom so eats more with her?? Charlotte just started daycare yesterday and she only ate 6 oz ALL DAY! I hope its just an adjustment thing and that increases cause that is not enough over 9 hrs!

 

Thanks everyone for the support. Have a PT apt today. We will see if all my kegels are helping!

post #34 of 39

Courtney, can you PM me with your address in NC? i can send you a medela hand pump.  nothing fancy, but it should get the job done till you splurge on something more extravagant ;)

post #35 of 39
Thread Starter 
No computer at my parents and going home tomorrow but wanted to say courtney that i can bring a pump for you when we have our play date. Just msg me and let me know.
post #36 of 39

Courtney: I have a spare medela double electric, just needs new tubing and flanges. If you want it, it's yours.

post #37 of 39

aww, you are all so sweet, I bought a $30.00 lansinoh pump yesterday and I am just going to use less gas or not get Jewel a new backpack or something (this is not mean she actually doesn't want a new backpack, but I want her to have one she isn't allowed to bring it to class so she doesn't carry her way too heavy backpack around all day) to cover the cost, I decided it had to be done when I could barely hand express any milk from the left side, it's always been hard to hand express on that side and damn near impossible now that I have got my supply at a manageable level.

 

Flavorful, we need to set up our play date, I'm so excited. we'll talk.

 

Soon I am finally going hiking with my girls at Crowders mountain park. Looking forward to it we were delayed by a missing carseat and then by rain. Actually as soon as I finish typing this and get out of my pajamas...oh and according to my 6 year old after they poop. LOL.

post #38 of 39
Just popping in to say that Holden rolled over today!! Yayyy! I just had a feeling he was going to do it, and I caught it on the video recorder on my iPhone smile.gif DH and I cheered so loud I think we scared him and he started crying. Love!
post #39 of 39

super exciting, motion is fun (and scary when they hurt themselves and harder when they aren't in the same place you left them. LOL)

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