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post #21 of 35
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Read this article this morning and found it reassuring so I figured I'd add it here.  :)
 

http://www.drmomma.org/2009/09/why-pregnancy-due-dates-are-inaccurate.html

post #22 of 35

My son was born on January 23rd and his due date was January 7th.

 

I live in Central PA where I had a choice of two practices for prenatal "care" and one hospital within the 1 hr radius for delivery.  I switched practices at 20 weeks because it was so closed-minded and completely against allowing me a choice for anything (there was controversy over my thyroid and whether or not I should take medication). 


The docs let me go to 42 weeks and didn't say anything.  I was having the nst and ultrasound twice a week during the last two weeks with NO indication of upcoming labor.  On the day before the day that marked my 42nd week, they made me go in and get induced.  I say they "made me" because they gave me this line about how they are bound by their liscence to delivery by 42 weeks or something. 

 

I had -- no joke -- a 2-year-old's tantrum in the office because my husband was all for it and I wanted no part of it.  I had been practicing hypnobirthing for the last 7 months in preparation for a natural birth and I knew how these things ended (c-section).  I knew that if he wasn't here yet it was because he and my body weren't ready yet.  Who are we to dictate that, right?!  Well, my husband and parents and the doctors all saw my desires as simply that -- my desires.  They weren't rational and they weren't well-thought-out.  Quite the contrary.

 

Well, I forfeited that fight.  I cried for hours afterword and all through the night before we went to the hospital the next day.  You better believe I kept my husband up with me!   I could describe the gory details of what happened next, but it's not necessary for me to scare anyone.  I can summarize by saying that I was induced for 3 days -- with no food -- and Max was born by c-section on the 3rd day.  I was in the hospital a total of 7 days from admission to release.

 

I had tried accupressure out the wazooo -- essential oils until I stunk up the whole house -- bounced on an exercise ball for hours a day -- walked regularly -- washed the floors -- and had sex (only once after begging -- my DH hadn't touched me since i got a real round belly at about 5 months).  None of that did anything at all for me.  I didn't try castor oil or some other things because I felt that they'd be as invasive as pitocin -- natural or not.  Induction is induction.

 

My mom had advised me to just request the section from the start -- she had gone through an almost identical birth with me and felt it wasn't worth the physical and emotional toll that induction would take.  I can now attest that it was not worth it.  With the benefit of hindsight, I could say that I would have fought everyone around me and just went to the ER to have the baby when I did go into natural labor.  Screw the docs -- they'd have to deliver the baby.  To the best of my knowledge, they couldn't turn me away, right?  If for some reason that scenario wasn't possible, I'd just have the section from the get-go.

 

That being said, we do plan to have more kids and if I can go into labor myself by the 42nd week, I would still like to try to have a VBAC.  Yes, my son has a beautifully round head and my girl parts are not stretched from here to kingdom come -- But I wasn't able to breastfeed because of all that pitocin ... recovery wasn't as easy as it could have been ... and I never got to hold my son when he was born.  In fact, I didn't see him for nearly 1 hr!  And, even then, I wasn't allowed to be with him alone for 24 hrs because of the anesthesia I had (the surgery was painful despite the epidural -- so they gave me something general i think).  The not getting to see him part stick breaks my heart ...

 

Unfortunately, since I live in the middle of no where (about 10 miles from Penn State campus), they won't even do VBACs here.  I'll need  to drive 1 hr (about 80 miles) to get to a hospital that will.  :/

 

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

My advice:  WAIT IT OUT.  Your LO will come when you are both ready!

post #23 of 35

I was 2 weeks past my due date and this was my 5th baby. I was already 41 years old and I started to have serious psychological panic issues. 

I requested a c/sec. I am glad I had that choice available.

post #24 of 35

I had a pit induction at 42 weeks with DD1.  She was born a healthy 7lbs 7oz.  My cervix wasn't dilated, effaced, or even a little soft when they began the induction.  We did a foley catheter induction first, which dilated me to 3cm, possibly 4.  That took a good 4 hours. Then it was full on pitocin torture (contractions didn't hurt, but holy heck the back labor from my posterior babe was intense!!) and I had her 10 hours after they started the pit.  I'm glad I waited until 42 for the pitocin induction.  I think had I gotten it sooner, my body wouldn't have been ready at all and I'd have had a c/s for FTP or something or other.

 

 

With this pregnancy, I'm due September 15th.  When people ask me my due date, I just tell them "End of September, early October".  Customers at work are baffled.   "But when are they taking the baby out??".  

post #25 of 35

You need to listen to your body and baby here. I found meditation and asking the question to myself really helped me through my pregnancy and birth. Really, we all know what's going on with ourselves and what we should do, but we try and look outside of ourselves instead of trusting what we know. 

 

This might sound airy-fairy but I really found the power of my own intuition and connection with my body and baby during pregnancy and it never led me astray. 

 

If you feel that you do not need to be induced, and you trust that your baby will come when ready, then go with that. 

 

If you feel something is wrong, get checked out, continue to check in with yourself and see what you really feel you need to do. 

 

Take care :)

post #26 of 35

thanks for the link.  my "due date" was 4 weeks ago going off my last period.  i know the baby will come when it comes but in the meanwhile the comments suck and all the women in my June board have babies that are 2-6 weeks so i really feel left out
 

post #27 of 35
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Originally Posted by Sharlla View Post

thanks for the link.  my "due date" was 4 weeks ago going off my last period.  i know the baby will come when it comes but in the meanwhile the comments suck and all the women in my June board have babies that are 2-6 weeks so i really feel left out
 

I know what you mean.  The comments are hard as everyone seems very anxious about me having this baby.  Plus everyone on my due date club seems to be "beating" me to the finish line.  Also, I am a little puzzled as to why my pregnancy is longer this time than previously.  Trying to remain positive and hopeful but it's getting harder each day.  

 

PS I have a Wes too. :)

post #28 of 35
post #29 of 35
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Originally Posted by fruitfulmomma View Post

http://haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

 

That's great!!!

 

DS was born at 41weeks, 6 days, after I was induced with a foley catheter because my OB was 'going on vacation the next week'... lesson learned, this time around the baby will come when he/she is good and ready, not to align with someone else's planned vacation!!!

 

Good luck to you!

post #30 of 35

I'm 41+5 today, and am very anxious. My daughter was born at 40+4, so I thought this one would be right around that same time. I am a complete hermit right now. No one wants to talk to me unless it's about the baby.

post #31 of 35

My mom went past her dates with every single one of her 7 children. The earliest of us being born around 41 weeks and the latest being my sister who was 43 1/2 weeks. We were all very healthy and just decided to come when we were good and ready :D

post #32 of 35
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Originally Posted by LeaPea View Post

I'm 41+5 today, and am very anxious. My daughter was born at 40+4, so I thought this one would be right around that same time. I am a complete hermit right now. No one wants to talk to me unless it's about the baby.

(((hugs))

 

Totally the same boat over here.. My boys were 40+2 and 40+3 so being almost 42 is throwing me for a loop.  I think I'm going to take a social media break this weekend and shut my phone off.  

 

Meanwhile I am having the same annoying contrax that seem to show up every afternoon/evening the past couple days and then just stop when I go to bed.  ugh.

post #33 of 35

My daughter (second child, first homebirth) was 41+6 days so almost 2 weeks past my edd. My labor and birth was awesome, she came when she was ready, and she was 7 pounds 12 oz.  (My mom said I was 3 weeks past her edd with me so it was payback. Ha!)

 

My son (first child, hospital birth) was 40+1 but only because they scared me and said he was going to be 10 pounds and I'd probably have to have a c-sec if I didn't agree to induction (I had GD.) He was 6 pounds 10 oz. They don't know anything. :P If I had more kids I am sure I would go past again, my babies just like a little more cookin. ;)

post #34 of 35
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Thanks everyone for your responses!  Just thought I'd update that my baby girl was born on 7/23 at 3:08pm at home and in the water with my husband, doula and two wonderful midwives in attendance.  She was healthy, perfect and even a little smaller than my last baby at 8lb 12oz and 22"

She was 16 days past her EDD and other than some wrinkly hands and feet and lack of vernix, you wouldn't know she was a little late. :)

post #35 of 35
CONGARTS MUMMA!!!!
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