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[MPsSweetie]

That's what dh said to me this morning...
While I was gagging, crying, and changing my toddlers dirty diaper while lying down on the bed because I couldn't sit up.
While he sat and read a magazine...
"Maybe we shouldn't have anymore kids after this."
And then.. He left. Went to the coffee shop to hang out, while I stay home with the kids and the dirty house.

I have never been so hurt in my entire life.

[carmen358]

Oh no! That sounds so hurtful and insensitive I'm sorry. I hope you'll bring it up with him and you can talk it out. Big hugs to you!

[jodieanneanton]

I am sorry, MPsSweetie!  That is sooo frustrating.  I hope his time away makes him think about how hurtful that comment was. 

[Chapsie]

Oh, no!  At the beginning of my third pregnancy, right after I told him I got a BFP (it was a surprise), he said: "well... not every pregnancy ends in a baby."  I was HEARTBROKEN at his insensitivity.  We ended up miscarrying at 12 weeks.  The next pregnancy was also lost.  Sometimes men just don't understand.  They say the dumbest things.  I love my hubby with all my heart, but he is far from perfect!  

Hope the rest of your day is fantastic.  :)

[happylemon]

Oh, I am so sorry, that would hurt me too. Men don't understand at all! I hope he comes around, make sure you tell him that he hurt you though, they can be dense too.

[cocoanib]

Be sure to bring it up to him and tell him how much it hurt you. He may not be thinking that much of it.

[ClumsySugarPlum]

Oh, that's awful. I'm so sorry. Dh can be the same way sometimes. It's like because you want to have a baby you have no right to complain about any of the really hard parts. While there are some beautiful highlights to pregnancy, there is a lot of it that is a big sacrifice to get something (baby) we all know is so much more important. We know the risks and discomfort are there, but we do so BRAVELY anyway. I don't think we'd even have ds if it was my husband who would have to agree to give up sushi, beer, his athlete body, and the shape of his genitalia. 

I hope your hubs is nicer to you soon. 

[MPsSweetie]

Aww, thank you all. Your kind words mean so much to me.

He came home with sea bands and ginger gum, and has been much nicer. I am embarrassed that I posted something to make him look like a jerk, although it was pretty jerky! I just wonder where his brain is sometimes? I really don't think he even knew how bad it was.
I normally probably wouldn't have been upset, I would've said something equally snarky back, it was just bad timing.

It is so hard to not complain at times! But if I do, I feel like he thinks I'm saying having kids is too hard. It is hard! But at the end of the day, when the kids are asleep, lol, they are my everything.

Men....

[ClumsySugarPlum]

Yay! Glad to hear it! Have a great evening.

[MPsSweetie]

Thank you!