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[Bena]

Ok...weird title, I know.  BUT

I'm not ready to "come out" to anyone IRL yet (we had a loss at 15 weeks this spring, and I need to come to terms with being pregnant again), but we have a family BBQ with DP's family tomorrow, and Sunday we are celebrating my sister's b-day at my parents. 
My family, at least, is pretty big on wine and bubbly for special occasions like b-days.

If I flat out turn it down, they'll know what's up.  Last winter, I used the excuse that I was on a cleanse, but it was right after Chrismas, so it made sense, and my mom commented on my "cleanse" when I told her I was pg a few weeks later, so I can't use that excuse a second time around!

I was thinking of taking a glass and subtely dumping it out when no one is looking....but I"m not so sure it I'll get a chance!

Anyone has ideas on how to "fake drink"?!?!

[babytoes]

Oh boy, I don't know what to tell you! Not only may you not have a chance to dump a little here and there, they may also notice you not actually drinking any. 

What if you pretent that your drinking a mixed drink? You or DP could make it, and it could look like a mixer. I drink OJ and cranberry together all the time, and if you toss some ice in it, it looks just like a mixed drink.

Just a thought! Good luck!

[thentherewere4]

yep, I'm in exactly the same boat this weekend.

...if you can get away with mixed virgin drinks, that would be a great option.

There are not going to be any mixed drink options at my events this weekend (wine snobs ;-)  I'm going to pour 1/2 a glass of delicious red wine, and sip it throughout the evening.  I'm sure that 1/2 a glass of wine over the course of a couple of hours is not going to have any effect on fetal development. 

Could you say you are on some medication (antibiotic?) that you can't mix with alcohol?

hoping we both get through this weekend undetected!

TTW4

Edited by thentherewere4 - 7/20/12 at 3:06pm

[rnra]

It's not the best option, but is there any chance of having DP refuse alcohol too?  Then you could say that you're doing a diet together (look up a few for reference).  Good luck.

[SuzieSmiles]

We had dinner the other night with another couple (good friends we only get to see a couple of times a year). We went to an Indian restaurant and when our server took our drink orders, I asked for a mango lassi, they looked at me funny. We almost always share a bottle (or 2) of wine. I couldn't keep the secret and ended up spilling the beans halfway through dinner. They're the only friends we've told and have only shared with our Moms so far (DH father passed away a few years ago and I can't risk telling my Dad because he's a blabber mouth - not on purpose, he can't help it, he's 81 and tends to forget what secrets are). 

I'd definitely recommend the mixed drink thing or the spilling if you can do it discreetly (hate the thought of  wasting good wine though). And, I doubt a few sips while faking it would do any harm. Good luck ladies!

[beautifulnm]

say you're doing a liver cleanse...

[mamakaikai]

Was just discussing this with DP! We're going to a sit down dinner in a week and our plan is to let the person serving the wine give me a glass, and then DP will drink it. If needed, I am ok taking a pretend sip once or twice and then refusing a second glass because I am driving. If you walk around with your drink, people won't notice if you are drinking or not. Good Luck!

[Bena]

Thanks for all your replies and tips!  I'm definitly planning on making myself some fake mixed drinks for the rest of the summer bbqs and parties we'll attend.

My "situation" for this weekend, however, was solved today in an unexpected way!  I stopped by my mother's, who is hosting my sister's birthday dinner, and she mentionned that my sister had requested sushi for dinner.  Now, I can probably get away with faking drinking, but definitely not fake eating, and it's a sit down dinner and I loooooove sushi, so there was no way I was going to get out of this!  So I just blurted out "I had a positive pg test this week, I'm not letting myself get excited yet, but I don't want to eat sushi anyways!!"

She just looked at me, super serious, and said ok. 

I guess I ruined the surprise of a "surprise, I"m pregnant! Hourray!", but after a late loss last time, I don't think there'll ever be the excitement of a pregnancy in our family anyways! 

So I can relax tomorrow, and *not* enjoy a glass of wine!

[SuzieSmiles]

Oh Bena, sorry you had kind of a bummer surprise with your Mom, darn sushi. Did you have to tell everyone else too or how did it go?

TTW4: how did your "fake drinking" work out?

[thentherewere4]

the "fake drinking" went well...no one asked any questions or raised any eyebrows.

I had a glass of red (dumped most of it in a sink), and a gin & tonic with 'barely there" gin....it still tasted good though!

TTW4

[SuzieSmiles]

Cool, glad it worked out for you. 

[Bena]

Originally Posted by SuzieSmiles 

Oh Bena, sorry you had kind of a bummer surprise with your Mom, darn sushi. Did you have to tell everyone else too or how did it go?

TTW4: how did your "fake drinking" work out?i

My parents were very discreet and didn't even hint anything.  My sister didn't ask any questions, didn't een seem to notice I didn't have a glass of wine.  Maybe she was being super discreet and didn't dare to ask?!?!  Oh well, she'll find out eventually!

[mamakaikai]

Haha, I had a fake drinking episode this evening, or I shoudl say my partner did! We were in a restaurant and it was a family birthday celebration so there were a few wine bottles on the table. Someone poored me a glass, so dp drank his and mine. No one noticed I didn't drink it, but then both of our glasses got refilled...so dp had 4 glasses of wine! A bit of a backfire plan! We like wine with a meal, just not usually that much! I don't think he really minded much though!