Originally Posted by Therese's Mommy
Hopefully just hearing someone else's story and knowing your not alone will help you
It does help - thank you so much. Not sure what my triggers are. It seems like there are days when I wake up distressed for some reason and I'm not sure why. It's definitely worth trying to figure out, though.
Originally Posted by katealicia
I'm sorry this is happening :( I know how you feel because I had ADD really really bad when I was younger and as an adult it improved a lot. Now that I am pregnant it has returned in full force. For me anxiety went right along with my ADD and that has come back too. I just try to keep myself busy but not frantic. You are definitely not alone :)
Thank you! Keeping busy is my "remedy". If I start to have a freak-out, I clean the house. Before I got pregnant I had taken up jogging as well, which helped a lot because I got out of the house and it helped me to feel like I was "escaping". Now that I'm pregnant I'm not comfortable jogging, so sometimes yoga helps, but I have to be in the right frame of mind for it. Sometimes I'm too shaky or nervous to really get into the headspace properly.
Originally Posted by callahansmama
Over the years my anxiety has been a huge problem but I was lucky that pregnancy and post partum didn't aggrivate it. I was bracing myself for major depression and anxiety after my son was born but I think I just had the normal baby blues. I always find that exercise helps although I don't always make that time for myself anymore or nearly enough. I always try to talk myself down from my tree by reminding myself that things are never as bad as I make them out to be and trying to remember times when I was so anxious about something and it was no big deal. I'm not sure how old you are but I am 34 now and I feel my anxiety peaked in my mid-twenties and has tapered off from there. Take care and I hope you can take comfort in not being alone at all!
Thank you! I am 36. My anxiety was at its worst when I was in my adolescence and teens. Then my 20's were mostly severe depression, with some anxiety thrown into the mix. My 30's have been relatively chill and relaxed because I found a lot of coping strategies for both problems, including taking up martial arts, yoga, and meditation. However, just about two weeks before I got pregnant this year, my SO's best friend died in a horrific car accident at age 24. That, along with an unexpected pregnancy two weeks later, seems to have triggered some kind of massive anxiety thing for me.
Originally Posted by kateaton
You're definitely not alone. For me pregnancy is a time of increased anxiety, since we had a previous loss. This has been scarring in some ways. It's just such an incredibly vulnerable time. You are growing a human being and you basically have no control over it's health or life. I find myself worrying about the baby alot. I had a horrible weekend last weekend. I woke up in the middle of the night with cramps and thought I might be in preterm labor. I ended up getting an ultrasound and found that everything was fine and that I had a stomach bug. It's been lasting all this week and then I've been worrying about the stomach bug harming the baby... and it goes on and on.
On the practical side of things, I've found that Rescue Remedy helps a lot. Not sure if you're familiar with this, but I get it at my local health food store. Also, I'm a Christian and have a strong belief in God- praying helps a ton and so does reminding myself of verses that say things like "Be anxious for nothing" and "Do not worry" Hopefully you find a way to get some peace.
Thanks for all this! What you describe in the first paragraph is exactly what I deal with constantly. I am terrified of losing the baby, almost to the point of it being irrational. Last month I had some severe abdominal pain and went to the ER where they told me I was in preterm labor. I spent the next four days hooked up to an IV in the hospital. Every time I would feel the baby kick I wanted to cry with relief that she was still alive - and then a wave of fear would come over me that it would be the last time I would feel her alive. The ultrasound showed everything inside was normal and the amniotic sac hadn't broken, the baby was fine, but I couldn't relax. It doesn't help that the doctors were rude and dismissive and told me a lot of horror stories to scare me into taking "better" care of myself. All it did was make me feel guilty and overly responsible. I didn't cause the preterm labor with anything I did "wrong". But at the time when I was such a wreck I couldn't stop shaking and crying, it was a horrible experience. Then everyone was saying, "Stop crying! When you're upset it hurts the baby!" WTH people.
Yesterday I had to go to the ER again because during class (I'm a teacher) I suddenly felt liquid soaking through my panties and through my skirt. In fact, there was so much I thought I had peed myself - my underwear was soaking wet, as was the back of my skirt. Of course I feared the worst and excused myself from school and went to the ER. As it turns out it was "normal" discharge (not normal for me, but the doctor said that it's common in late pregnancies to have a lot of watery discharge like that) and not amniotic fluid. I can't help but feel I overreacted even though everyone says I did the right thing in going to the doctor. Even the doctor said it could have been amniotic fluid and the only way to tell is with a test. It makes me wonder that if I'm like this now, what will I be like after the baby is born? Will I overreact to everything all the time and live in a state of constant fear and anxiety that something bad will happen to her? I don't know if I can handle that.
I also can't read the news because it seems like every other story is about a baby dying or something horrible happening to a pregnant woman. That's probably always been the case, but now I'm hyper-sensitive to it. The one thing I have to remind myself of constantly is that my worry about something will not change its outcome. So I'm allowed to relax if I want to. Nothing bad will happen if I just let go of it.
Currently I live in China, so the same types of remedies are not available to me here. There is a brilliant traditional Chinese medicine for anxiety and depression, called "an shen bu nao ye", but it cannot be taken during pregnancy. I have used it in the past and it works wonders. They've given me something else which seems to help a bit, but is not as powerful. It tastes like gingerbread, though. Also it's supposed to help strengthen the womb, so it can't hurt.
While I'm not Christian, I do practice certain Buddhist meditations and I feel like it's probably a good idea to start taking those up more diligently.