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I think it's time for a "how are the babies?" thread.

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Thread Starter 

How are the already-arrived babies and their mamas doing?  How's nursing and sleeping and otherwise adjusting to life with a babe?  Things have been awfully quiet around here!

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Lol, I know, I keep stalking the board hoping that some early active posters would at least post birth stories (wondering about lactomom, beccabus, sjdragonfly, mayryepearl, xandumama, modestmothering, scowgirl and more)

Anyway! Over here we are doing pretty good. Going through the 3 week growth spurt so he wants to nurse a lot but is still a little grumpy. I'm drinking some Goat's Rue tea to help my milk supply come in better and a little faster for him. He is sleeping really good most of the time except those few days when he decides that 3 am is the perfect time to stay up for 3 hours.

He has been gaining weight really well (according to our adult scale where I weigh myself alone then weigh myself holding DS3) he is past 9 lb when his birth weight was 6lb 12oz!

Hoping to hear from all the other mamas too orngbiggrin.gif I will try to post a new pic of Sebastian soon on here too.
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Silas is doing well. He is starting to mellow out a bit more each day. Nursing has gotten better, the blisters that were on my nipples are gone. The wonderful leaking has begun.

Baby would rather sleep on me than in the bed by himself, can't blame him. He is getting bigger, don't know how much he weighs now but he's gotten a little thigh where there once was a stick.lol

I am doing better, its amazing what catching up on sleep will do for you.

Bleeding is minimal here at a week and three days.

My big kids are coming back from my mom's today, so now the real challenge starts.

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Edited by fruitfulmomma - 2/20/13 at 12:34pm
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Things are going well here.  Hadley was two weeks yesterday.  My husband had off work for two weeks, which was nice, so I got lots of resting time.  The real test starts next week!  My four and two year old both love their little sister to pieces.  They both ask to hold her multiple times a day and love to give her kisses and hugs.  Nursing is going well, I did have sore nipples and engorged breasts for a few days, but the pain is gone and we're settling into a nice routine.  She nurses every 2-4 hours for the most part.  Like my other two kids, only for about 5 minutes and one side at a time.  I thought maybe she'd break the mold and want to nurse for longer, but that is not the case.  We've had a couple big spit ups, but they were all from me trying to solve her crying with more nursing, so too much in her little belly.  I figured out if I wear her through the evening, she will sleep instead of fuss, so I try to do that.  She still sleeps pretty much all the time.  I think her big 12 hour sleep cycle is 10pm-10am.  I will gradually try to get that to move earlier in the evening, but for now it will work out.  It will be nice to have her still sleeping after the big kids get up.  Then I can tend to them without worrying about nursing and diaper changes.  She has a bit of dark hair, both of which are rare.  We are used to bald babies with some blonde fuzz.  I'm waiting for it to fall out and come back blonde around 1 year!  We shall see.   Overnight sleep isn't too bad.  She nurses at 10pm, 2am, 4am, and 7am.  There have been a few nights where she was more like 11:00pm and 4am, but I'm not counting on that.  She's in bed with us and not a pooper overnight, so I haven't been doing any diaper changes, which makes a huge difference in how I feel in the morning. 

 

I'm sick of wearing maternity clothing, but all my "fat" clothes are too small.  I'm going to go out later today and get a few items to get me through the next few weeks (months).  I've lost over half of my weight gained, but I gained just over 40lbs, so I still have a bit to go.  Plus, I started out almost 25lbs over where I should be, so if I add that on, I have a lot more weight to go!  I signed up for the Color Run in August, thinking my baby would be older by now.  So, I'm not sure how much prep time I will have to practice before the run.  Plus, I'm not really looking forward to the feeling of running with all this extra skin and fat on my body.  I really, really want to get into an exercise routine though, so I better do it!  My bleeding is just random spotting and I got the all-clear from my midwife to go swimming (in my parent's pool), which is great because we're supposed to get back in the 90s here soon.

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Yeah, I feel you with the running. I committed to a half marathon in October and now I'm like "wth was I thinking???"
post #7 of 42
Thread Starter 

I am loving the sibling interaction here too- so sweet how much they adore her.  DS1 is enamored with her "pretty clothes with flowers" and loves to help get her dressed.  Cracks me up-  totally did not anticipate that after having such a strong "boy" dynamic around here for so long.  

 

Lottie is super mellow and sleepy, but has been more wakeful & hungry the last couple of days, which I actually really appreciate (there were a few days where it seemed like she'd just get lost in the noisy, chaotic shuffle of 4 little kids without making a peep.  Glad to know she's found her voice!)  She looks like all my other babies- dark hair and eyes.  She's a tiny bit jaundiced, still, but seems mild and I'm not concerned.  

 

I am sick to death of my maternity clothes, and am totally impressed with you mamas who committed to running!  Wow.

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I too cannot wait to be active again! I paid for a year membership at the gym last September and haven't been there since October. :( What a waste of money. I am having lots of thoughts about losing the extra baby body and feeling vain about it. Trying to redirect myself to just focusing on making sure I am healthy for taking care of babe and not worrying about the belly roll. But this thread is about the babes....

 

 

Luna is not gaining well. She was 7#12 at birth, 7#5 at one week, 7#6 at two weeks, and at three weeks is only a 1/2 oz more than that (by a different scale though, midwife is coming today to weigh her on the original fish scale these weights were taken on, last few weight checks have been on digital scale with lactation consultant). It seems she has tongue and lip tie as indicated by poor weight gain, green poop, heart shape tongue, and smooshed nipples. At first the thought of clipping her tongue sounded horrifying, but right now the thought of extended pumping and breastfeeding intervention sounds even worse. We have an appointment on Tuesday for an evaluation to probably have her mouth and tongue clipped. In the meantime, I am pumping as much as I can (only about an oz a day) and giving that to her through and eye dropper at my breast, taking herbs to increase supply, and doing compressions while she is nursing. She is also getting cranial sacral massage. It is all pretty overwhelming to me, but I sometimes feel I am being a baby compared to what others go through. I think she is overall healthy, and I am grateful for that. We are just staying close to home, and my husband and older kids are doing awesome at taking care of me while I focus on Luna.

 

I am around the computer all the time, but rarely have two hands free to type.
 

post #9 of 42

::hugs:: mama! I hope things start looking up for you. I have talked with mamas who have had a tongue tie clipped and they said that the babes were able to nurse right after the procedure and that the nursing was like night and day before and after the procedure. Sometimes these things need to be done.

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maxnmaizy - that is stressful!  I know what you mean about putting it perspective, but no matter what is "wrong" with our babies, it's always tough and difficult (and heart wrenching).  I hope that things start looking up soon, and the tongue clipping isn't too traumatic for any of you.

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We are loving our time with little Harper!  Since we were discharged from the hospital a little early, we took her to the pediatrician on day 3 and she was back to her birth weight already.  At this appointment we also learned that she has a fractured clavical which i guess is common in babies that are born really fast.  Thankfully it doesn't seem to bother her and should heal in about 2 weeks. My milk really came in strong this time around and days 2-5 were a bit painful between being so engorged and then trying to get her to latch on and having to do a little pumping to get it to a stage where she could latch one.  We're back under control now.  We were also blessed with a very good newborn sleeper.  From the first night in the hospital, she's slept one 6-7 hour stretch and then another 3-4 hour stretch so I'm just having to wake up to feed once each night (probably the main reason I had engorgement issues, too!)  During the day she's eating every 2-4 hours with some major cluster feedings the 2 hours before bed.  She's 9 days old right now and has found her voice. She's cuddly and content until she wants to eat and then she SCREAMS!  Our 2 year old really loves her and their playing includes him kissing her with cream cheese lips and then when he sees it on her he just licks it off:)  He will also go up to her and start singing "twinkle twinklw little star..." in the softest sweetest voice if she starts crying.  He's been a bit moody and a little naughty, but I guess that's to be expected.  Glad he's sweet to the baby at least. 

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Aww that is adorable! And too funny licking food off of her lol. It just warms my heart when I see my two boys singing to Sebastian to make him stop crying :D So sweet. Hope her clavicle isn't bothering her, too!

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Evelyn is doing pretty well. Our big stress right now (other than baby blues and general new parent stress) is weight gain. We went to the pediatrician the day after we got home from the hospital (last Wednesday) and she had lost down to 7 lb 3 oz. (13 oz off her birth weight of 8 lb). She was also a little jaundiced. They had us bring her back the next day, and the scale at the office said 7,5 but the doc said she only gained 5 grams? (She was like "Oh, I'm measuring in grams," but 1.8 oz does not = 5 g. So I'm not sure what happened there.) The jaundice is now completely gone, and she has tons of soaking wet diapers and the requisite amount of yellow seedy poopy diapers, but per appointment today she is only gaining 10 g per day as opposed to the 20 g they would like to see. Of course, the wet diaper we took off her in the office weighed 50 g on our digital kitchen scale when tared against a dry diaper, so had we weighed her an hour earlier, the story might have been different. greensad.gif Currently (at 8 days old) she is weighing in at 7,6 to 7,8 on our home scale, and was 7,6 at the doc's.

 

To be honest, I think I could deal with all this if it wasn't for the pediatrician breathing down our necks. She eats and seems satisfied, I'm having a letdown from what I can tell, and there have only been a few occasions when I can't seem to keep up with her hunger (she cluster feeds sometimes). Last night this happened and we fed her some pumped milk and she was fine. But we have to go back Thursday and if she is not gaining appropriately, they are going to make us supplement. It's like a roller coaster where I start to feel OK about it in between times, and then when I go into that horrible office I just want to die.

 

I also feel like a failure because I can't make myself pump any more often than about once per day. It's just too tiring and demoralizing. Today after I fed her I pumped for 5 minutes or so (ped said to do this every half hour for 4 hours) and only got <10 mL (yesterday pumping in between feedings I got an ounce and a half). I felt great about the ounce and a half yesterday until I looked online and people were worried about "only" getting 2-3 oz after a feeding. Now it's time to pump again and I'm not sure if I will get anything at all. This is just so stressful.

 

Sorry for the vent... of course I am thankful and the "problem" could be much, much worse, but it's just tough to keep perspective on everything. I have no idea what I'll do when DH goes back to work on Monday.

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hug2.gif scowgirl! I know feeding issues can be hard. Do you feel you are making enough milk? Your milk probably just took awhile to come in but also I have heard that the average baby loses 10% of their body weight before gaining it back and that it is by 2 weeks that baby should be back at birth weight. I would be diligent about taking down not only lb & oz weights at home, but recording for yourself the weight in grams at each appt and making sure that they all weigh her the same (generally it is completely nude but I know some nurses who try to rush through it will do it with some clothes or diaper on, regardless of if it is full or not). O had a lot of issues with my preemie baby when he was still getting the hang of breastfeeding and his ped was kind of a douche about it.

 

Also, if pumping is necessary it might be worth renting a hospital grade pump from a pharmacy or even babies r us carries them. With DS1 (preemie) the medela pump-in-style got maybe an ounce each time I pumped (this wasn't even with me nursing him) and with the Medela Lactina or Symphony I got like 5+ oz each time I pumped.

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Also, if you do think you have low milk supply, one of the BEST herbs that I have ever used for increasing milk supply is Goat's Rue. I bought a pound of it (most cost effective amount, $20 for the 1 lb or $16 for 8 oz or 11 or so for 4 oz) from Mountain Rose Herbs. The Goat's Rue from there is certified organic as well. I drank 1 cup when Sebastian started his 3 week growth spurt and my milk supply doubled and he had no problem getting enough milk (as opposed to him feeding every waking second like DS1 and DS2 did with growth spurts).

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scowgrl, I soo understand on all accounts. Having them breath down your back like your doing something wrong or your baby is dieing is awful. Please know they cannot make you supplement though. And some babies are just slow gainers.I hate the pumping too. First time I did it I cried the whole time, and only got a few drops. I pumped as much as I could all weekend, which was more on some days and less on others, and at most got 1.5 oz. It is all so very distracting from what I feel like I should be doing which is nursing and loving up on my baby.

 

Luna had her tongue clipped today, her upper lip didn't need it. It was very fast and simple. She hardly bled or cried. Really hoping this does the trick and she is able to nurse more efficiently now.

 

Sending lots of love to you all, this is hard work! Still can't believe just about any yahoo can have a baby!
 

post #18 of 42

Good luck to you and Luna, maxandmaizy! I really hope that getting her tongue clipped will turn the feeding issues around for you!

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scowgirl,  try really hard not to worry if she is peeing and pooping and seems satisfied.  cluster feeding is normal and her way of building your supply up.  you do not have to supplement at all.  is there any particular reason you are pumping?  besides to see what you can get?  nursing is way more efficient and a lot less stress and work.  I am not a good pumper at all, at most I get 3 oz and that is with older babies.  in the beginning I am lucky to pump an ounce.  i have a friend who routinely overflows bottles on both sides, so 5+ounce each!s.  everyone is different.  also, i weighed dd before and after nursing and she gained 4 ounces!  so i can pump one ounce, but she is obviously getting more than that.  try not to worry!  i really think how much your baby is outputting is the most important thing.  if that is good, you are good!  it is so hard not to stress when doctors insist something is not right, but they aren't necessarily right either.

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scowgirl,  try really hard not to worry if she is peeing and pooping and seems satisfied.  cluster feeding is normal and her way of building your supply up.  you do not have to supplement at all.  is there any particular reason you are pumping?  besides to see what you can get?  nursing is way more efficient and a lot less stress and work.  I am not a good pumper at all, at most I get 3 oz and that is with older babies.  in the beginning I am lucky to pump an ounce.  i have a friend who routinely overflows bottles on both sides, so 5+ounce each!s.  everyone is different.  also, i weighed dd before and after nursing and she gained 4 ounces!  so i can pump one ounce, but she is obviously getting more than that.  try not to worry!  i really think how much your baby is outputting is the most important thing.  if that is good, you are good!  it is so hard not to stress when doctors insist something is not right, but they aren't necessarily right either.

yeahthat.gif  I've never been able to pump more than a few drops, but never had supply issues.   Big hugs to you, scowgirl.   Just try to relax and enjoy nursing your LO- and drink lots of water!  Especially during cluster feeds.

 

maxnmaizy- glad the clip wasn't too traumatic- keep us posted!

 

AFM, this is day #2 of reality- DH is at work and I am home with the hooligans--er, sweet, darling little boys & my newborn.  It feels nice to be establishing a 'new normal', but wow, the exhaustion is really setting in.  

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