So I know I need to do something but I just can't decide the best approach. Currently I sleep in one bed w/ my oldest and youngest, one on each side of me. My hubby is in the other room.
My oldest has at least partially coslept most all of her 5 years and had a horrible time of it when my son was born. But she will go to sleep with hubby or on the matttress on the floor of our cosleeping room. I just need to be there for her once or twice a night for a quick settle. So, I think she'll be fine.
My 2 yr old son will let hubby put him down IF he thinks I'm not in the house (I hide in the master bedroom) but he wakes 2-4x a night determined that I come to his side or its a horrible screaming fit that isn't worth it to any of us.
Both my daughter and son sleep in the cosleeping bed for several hours a night w/out me there if I sneak away..either pregnancy insomia or I just wanna get out to the twin on the floor w/ my body pillow or I have enough energy to venture into the master bedroom.
I would prefer to cosleep with a newborn but might consider a bassinet/side-car thing if that is the best/safest because of another child. In the earliest weeks, I'll be up changing baby anyway, so setting baby in something isn't probably that awful unless its a hold-me newborn like my first that ONLY slept on me.
So options I'm played with:
1. move my oldest to the floor mattress permanently and try to co-sleep w/ my son and baby, possibly keeping baby in a side-car thing until a bit larger.
-downfall here is lots of noise in the cosleeping room if baby is having a hard time
-at least once a night my oldest will want a snuggle
-If I don't side-car, I think baby and I need to be on the side of the bed NOT against the wall so I don't have to struggle to get up to change or rock baby but I also don't trust a side-rail with a newborn. Which means me fearing baby will fall off..BTDT, not good for sleep or baby. So somehow i would need to think of a safe/sturdy way to have baby at my side but not at any risk.
2. let the two older kids continue in the cosleeping bed and have me and baby on the mattress on the floor
-downfall here is I worry a bit about the draft on the floor and/or a tiny, tiny, tiny chance that a big bro/sis could step on baby unless I use a moses basket or the like next to the bed.
-other downfall, I am sure I'll have to climb up to the big bed parts of the night, leaving baby by itself.
3. let the two older kids continue in the big cosleeping bed and move myself and baby back to the master
-downfall is I'll be back and forth between the two rooms all night long and may miss baby-squeaks to feed if I'm not right next to baby so baby will be in full cry mode when I get back to baby.
I wish i could just magically tell my older kids that daddy is their help at night now but...I just don't think it will work. We tried that w the birth of my son and it was a disaster.