Hi there. I'm pretty new to Mothering and mom to a 22-month-old DD. She is a good kid -- smart, funny, sweet and very nurturing to her toys/dolls. It just seems like I can't stop worrying about her for a second though. Now I am worried about her for no milestone-related reason, just that I "have the feeling" something is different with her. She can entertain herself easily (and always has) but does interact and engage with her parents and caretakers (showing, pointing, communicating needs, etc). She's not very social with other kids (doesn't like being hugged or kissed by them, and doesn't like when they grab her toys from her; seems shy and doesn't like saying hi or bye to a lot of people) but does observe and copy other kids, and smile at them when they're both doing the same actions. She is super verbal but even then, I worry (because she has some stock phrases and sometimes repeats things, although usually in context of the situation). Also her pronunciation isn't as good as some kids her age, and sometimes her speech seems like it takes more effort (little pauses in between words with longer sentences, for example). We had a play date yesterday and I was shocked at how coordinated my DD's playmate was in comparison to her-- swinging from monkey bars, etc. My DD is not clumsy but a bit slower to move and not as fast of a runner. No bad tantrums (she can be redirected easily) but then I worry she is too passive. She's not in the 'mine' stage yet either and then I worry she should be.
Seems like I am constantly worrying and comparing rather than just enjoying her, and I hate it.
How do you know when your worries are truly founded versus just neurotic? And how do you cope with this on a daily basis? I've had her checked out at a local autism center and they didn't flag any concerns, but that was a couple months ago before some new behaviors like echolalia started. I just feel like I am constantly running in circles, thinking she is fine one day and then worrying the next. How 'normal' is that?
Sorry if this isn't the right place to post... just having a bad morning