I am in a dilemma. I am currently in NW Arkansas and my husband (now ex) abandoned me when he found out I was pregnant. I also have a young child already, and we are in financial difficulty now due to the situation. I wanted to move out west to escape the humidity but since I am now pregnant do not have the funds yet and am thinking maybe I should move a little closer to my family until the baby is born at least (I am 6.5 hours away from them right now).
I have been debating on which area to move to in Missouri since some of my family lives there (they are near Lake St. Louis/Warrenton area). I cannot live with my parents again (it just would not work) but am really struggling financially.
I am reluctant to move TOO close to my parents because they do not share my beliefs about midwives, natural parenting, attachment parenting, homebirth, etc. - and to top it off one of my siblings who lives only a few minutes away from them is a nurse who thinks I am stupid for even considering homebirth. As much as I love my family, I am afraid that the negativity about this would hurt me having a homebirth and am thinking maybe I should live a little further away but still within reasonable driving distance.
I have been researching three main areas:
1. west of St. Louis (Warrenton/Lake St. Louis and surrounding areas like Washington etc.)
2. Columbia (about an hour away from them
3. Springfield (about 3.5 hours away)
If I choose #1 I may not have the support system I need even though I would be very close to them.
If I choose #2 I am worried it may be too liberal and too much of a college town for me.
If I choose #3 I think it may have more support but would it still be too far? I have read that rent is somewhat more affordable there.
I have no idea where the midwives are in Missouri, and that is one of the main factors for me as well. I REALLY want a homebirth this time (had a nightmare hospital experience) and I would like a community that is more supportive of that. I would love to have health food stores, some good churches, pet-friendly areas, shopping, but also I would like to eventually get a little house out in the country to have a small hobby farm since I am not keen on living around a lot of noise as I have in the city for so many years. I want to be in nature yet within driving distance for convenient shopping now and then.
Do any mamas out there have any suggestions for where in Missouri I might fit in the best? Any of these three or somewhere else entirely?