I am a little confused. Please bear with me...
Growing up, I had horses and I was out in the barn, manure, and dirt, dust, grime, constantly. I had to stack hay, and carry in 50 pound bags of grain, I loved being out in my barn. My father and brother built cars, there was always a vehicle project going on in my dads drive-in cellar. I also became very involved in cars. I bought my first car at 18, a 1986 Mustang GT 5.0. My father and I drove down below Boston (about a 4.5 hr ride) to buy it. A year later, I tore the engine out and completely rebuilt it, with help from my dad of course, but I did at least 70% of all the work. I love working on cars, and even up to this day, I have never brought a car to a mechanic, we (my father, brother and myself) can fix anything and I mean that literally. Engine, suspension, body work, we can fix it all. And I love it! I have a very unique bond with my father from working on cars with him, it's sort of our thing.
But, I also love, love, love getting all dressed up, and being super girlie! I love wearing pink, I love doing my hair, and wearing pretty dresses. My parents never acted like getting greasy under a car was not the right place for a girl. But I do remember my mother sewing me pretty dresses and putting my hair up. I guess I am a little naive as to this whole gender neutral thing. Maybe its because I have a pile of boys and I am just dieing to shop on the other side of the aisle! I don't know. But don't girls naturally gravitate towards pink and frilly things? I know I did, and I was definitely a hard core tom boy.
I am finding out the sex for numerous reasons. One being that I have nothing for this baby, and I want to buy things. Blue things, or, yes, pink things. I have wanted a girl forever, and if I have another boy, it is a wonderful blessing and I know exactly what I am doing with him, because I have BTDT!! But... If I have a girl... Oh the pink and frill will be spilling out of my house (I told DP, if we have a girl, he will be carrying a pink diaper bag, haha!) For 20 years I have been doing the Dump truck, bugs, mud, slime, and super hero thing. I would love to buy some pink... Finally!
I can totally understand, and agree with, wanting a girl to be what she wants and do what she wants. And to not hold her to old traditional ways. But, I guess I am confused how pink clothing will do this, isn't that done from the parents? Aren't we responsible for raising them to be strong, confident, and independent women?
Like I said, this is new territory for me, so bear with me. And do not think for one second I feel like anyone is doing the wrong, or a bad, thing by wanting gender neutral clothing. I am just a little confused, that's all...
Edited by babytoes - 8/21/12 at 8:32am