Originally Posted by fayebond
Oh gads, children supposedly ruin EVERYTHING about your life if you listen to some people. They're about to walk! gah! you're life igs going to be ruined, you will run after them all the time and have no life, ack! Oh, um, yes, they now can COME too, and GO get their own things, and start to not need your every waking moment, and become independant, and its actually very helpful because it measn they soon can FETCH water for you when you are nursing... Yeah, every milestone of life has people who panic about it, especially arlound kids.
On the actual topic at hand...fun fact... Jewish tradition (and the Bible, where exactly I forget) says about 8 weeks for a boy and about 10 weeks for a girl. I like that tradition because it gives your body a break, plus, you have to become more inventive in ways to connect during that time. Creativity that you otherwise wouldn't make time for. I'm looking forward to it, its fun to have to use your imagination in that department, just sayin'.
Oh, yeah, I know. It's just in cruising around the internet and reading books, I hear a LOT of complaining about the lack of an adequate sex life after the baby, and very few people (if any) talking about things being fulfilling in that department. I will admit to having some anxiety about that because of past issues. Fortunately I have a wonderful DP who respects and honors me and my body and doesn't expect a single thing from me. It's all up to me what happens and when, and he never pressures me for anything. Rather, he encourages me to take care of myself and feel good and not push myself too much. It's great because I get a lot of massages and back rubs and cuddling and stuff and he doesn't press me for more (before I got pregnant that sort of thing would have led to more). It's really nice to have that physical affection without feeling like I have to do anything else. Frankly I am not very interested in sex these days as it just seems like a whole lot of hassle and discomfort.
There is a similar waiting period after childbirth in China as well (where we live). Actually you're not really supposed to have sex during pregnancy or menstrual periods according to traditional Chinese medicine. I think there's a fear that it will cause infection, which in the past was a very real concern, but in modern times with modern hygienic practices should not be much of an issue. The funny part about that though, is that DP was well prepared to go a year without sex before I explained (much to his relief) that that wouldn't be necessary. I thought it was really sweet, though!