I have this theory - that the place where we have our parenting "holes" (as I call them) are the same "holes" that happened as we were parented. Mine was adolescence. My mother just basically ignored me because (I think) that she really couldn't come to grips with my new independence and "self" that was very much apart from her.
Now I'm falling into a hole :)
My son is 17 and wonderful. But I keep bumping into my own walls. I really, really try to live a consensual life with my children and then falter when they do something I don't agree with. Or that "bugs" me. Not anything life threatening or dangerous.
How to get out of this trap? I hate it, it causes so many arguments and resentments on my part. And he isn't doing anything wrong!
I need ideas and inspiration. Some been there, done that kinda thing. Please tell me I'm not alone and the only one who bumps into these walls! I really want out of this cycle.
Thank you in advance!