I know that there is a recent post asking who's told/telling and when. I read through all of the posts, and I feel pretty isolated in terms of my response. I am 12w and have told some old friends and some coworkers (in case they needed to cover for nausea, appointments etc.). Luckily, I have not had much of anything in the way of outwardly noticeable symptoms. I am an only child, but my husband has told one of his 3 siblings. Everyone has been wonderful--asking if this is a good thing instead of assuming that we are excited, playing it down, not bringing it up much in conversation when we see each other later on. I am really impressed with our friends and how much they "get us" as people.
We have not told our parents. I just came back from visiting my father for the weekend, and I was so relieved when I decided that I wasn't saying anything. My mom just had major surgery and is recovering out of state, so I will either have to tell her on the phone or wait a few weeks until I can travel to see her. The thing is, I would rather not tell them until I have no choice. I have such palpable dread about telling our parents. It is the absolute worst part of this pregnancy so far.
I am 31 and have been married for 10 years. I never dreamed of babies, just like I never fantasized about my wedding day. I am happy I got married to my husband, and I am sure that I will be happy being a parent (not sure that I will be happy about being a mommy). I am so embarrassed and irritated about the prospect of telling parents!!! I do not want to talk about being pregnant all of the time. I do not want it to be the main focus of any conversation but those that I have with my midwives and my husband. I know that I will no longer be able to have a conversation without it coming up. As far as telling the balance of my family, friends and coworkers, they can wait too. I want to keep my life for as long as possible before giving over the reigns to incessant baby talk. I am not planning on posting anything on Facebook. Ever.
Did/does ANYONE else feel this way?