I think another factor for me is that I like my down time a lot- I am not a super high energy like to be busy person. I like the idea of my home being as calm as possible. I like to spend alone time with my husband which we rarely get now with our 2 yr old- which is fine at this age but I do want some of that back eventually. I think having another kid could bring a whole new level of chaos to our home and I don't do well with chaos and lots of noise- etc- so I think I have a better chance at calm and quiet and down time with an only.
What was your deciding factor in stopping after one child? - Page 2
Poll Results: What was the main reason you decided to stop at one child?
13% (3)1. Finances
0% (0)2. Age (yours or your partner's)
4% (1)3. Timing was wrong
22% (5)4. Never wanted more than one child
59% (13)5. Other (please explain in a comment!)
The only reason I only have 1 kid is because my ex-husband was psycho, and I left him when ds was a yar old and have been single ever sense. Ds is 5 now and I want more, but I don't want to have kids beyond 30, I'm 26 now, and at this point, its pretty unlikely that I will be in a relationship situation where I can have more in the next few years.
My 2-year-old is the most perfect child for me and my partner. I can't imagine having another child since this one is so right for us (and especially me). I guess this sounds harsh but it seems like a dice roll and since I won so big the first time I feel hesitant to try again. Is this ridiculous? Sounds like it when it's written down, but I can't shake the feeling that I struck gold the first time and could never have such good luck again.