Okay, so this is rather long, but I would like some feedback from someone who is not emotionally involved in this.
My family has been attending a small UCC church for about 8 years. In that time there have been 3 pastors, the first one who retired, an interim pastor, and now the current pastor. We loved the first two. We haven't been so fond of the current pastor, but I kind of think of it as something to get through, not a make or break situation. However, due to this person, there has been a major exodus out of our church.
We have been very active in the church with the exemption of the last year. My FIL was dying of cancer, and we had a lot of responsibilities with him. We also didn't really jive with the pastor, so we kind of got lax about our volunteering. We still went to church and did some things, but not to the extent as before. Not sure if this is relevant, but it gives some background.
I am on the church council. I have one more year to serve. Due to all of the issues with the current pastor he has decided to retire. It would seem then, that the problem we've had will be solved right?
Well, one of the reasons we go here is that we like the UCC message of accepting everyone. This is a message that is often spoken about and spread and put into action at our church.
There have already been discussions on finding a new pastor. I was told that it will be difficult because so many "women and gays" have become ministers and that this church will be having none of that. I was just devastated when I was told that by other council members. It goes against everything my family believes in, and I thought it went against what people at this church believed also.
So, do we continue going to this church and use our voices to express the message of accepting everyone, or do we find another church that truly does so? There are 11 other council members. I think definitely 1 or 2 would be accepting of a woman or homosexual pastor, but the rest, I just don't know. I think a majority would not, based on what I was told. (It was told to me by 3 of the other council members.) Please understand that they are saying they wouldn't even consider the application of a woman or homosexual pastor.
There's the part of me that wants to stand up for all people and then there's the part that says, "You're not going to change these people's minds." However, if we do leave, I will be honest about why we are doing it.
Please, tell me honestly what you think.