This is a little long (I feel like all my posts are long, lol).
To complicate things a little, my DD's babysitter is my mom. DH and I both work full time due to financial constraints, and also due to financial constraints my mom willingly watches our DD for $200.00 a week. This has caused huge stress to my relationship with my mother, but I see no way around it. We can't afford daycare and we can't afford not to work.
Anyway, we have been completely TV-free with DD. This has always rubbed my mom the wrong way a little bit, and she started letting DD watch videos of herself on her iPhone against my wishes, insisting that it helped DD get through the long day away from me to look at pictures and video of me and herself. I allowed as long as it was ONLY home videos and nothing else, even though I really wanted DD to have NO screen time before two.
The other day, out of the blue, my mom declared, "I'm going to fight for a half-hour of Sesame Street this fall." DH and I are very clear on this: no TV (I wish it was no screen time at all) before 2 per the AAP. DD WILL be two in the fall, but why introduce it even then if DD shows no interest? We both wanted to wait much longer, may even until 5, to introduce a half-hour of TV.
But here's the thing: we're not with her all day, and my mom is. At the moment my dad takes their car to work every day, so she's stuck at home with DD and no car (they may be getting a second car soon, hopefully). I have tremendous guilt about that and I feel like I have to allow the TV since my mom feels like she needs that break. But putting huge limits on screen time is something I feel REALLY strongly about and I don't really want to give in.
I would really appreciate an unbiased, outside opinion on this. I don't think I can really be objective. I would also appreciate hearing when TV-limited families introduced TV and if introducing it this young had negative effects for your family. Thanks for reading.
ETA: Since this has been featured and is going to get more views now, I wanted to clear a few things up: I think my original post came off as super ungrateful, so I want to make it clear that I know how amazing our daycare situation is and how lucky we are. I am very grateful (though perhaps not always grateful enough) to my mother for the service that she offered to provide.
My mother is not with my DD everyday; she's with her 3.5 days a week (my MIL takes her the other 1.5.) Right now they are out and about every day, taking walks, going to the playground, meeting other moms and babies, etc. My mom is nervous about having no car in the fall, and I think that's what caused the TV desire (although it now looks like we ARE going to be able to give her a car, yay!). She is not currently trapped inside all day.
Thanks everyone for your replies, including the more recent ones of support. I don't have time just now but I will respond to specific replies a little later. Thanks again. :)
Edited by annaknitsspock - 7/30/12 at 7:18am