DS is a bright and happy 6.5 month old. He meets and exceeds developmental milestones. He loves to be held and worn, spends hours comfort sucking, wants to be near me all the time, etc. He is very socially aware and gives smiles and laughs freely. He gives both DH and me huge loving looks and smiles. He's just not physically affectionate with either of us.
He never leans in when held unless he is sleeping. When I hold him, he actually pushes against me with his hands to keep himself at a distance. When I give him a kiss, he moves away. When I rub his back, he arches it. He wants to sit with me, but he doesn't want to be cuddled. If I move my face close, he will touch it, but more of a curious touch, not affectionate. He touches my breasts while nursing, but more like squeezing which is unpleasant.
He was 5 weeks early and we didn't have an ideal birth experience. He was taken from me at birth and spent 25 days in the hospital. I'm trying not to believe that this is why he is unaffectionate because I really don't want to have another thing to grieve over. From what I hear, my husband was similar in nature as a baby. He has grown into a very loving husband, although his mom has said many times he has never been particularly affectionate with her. I grew up in an unaffectionate home with a very hands-off father and I've always looked forward to having affectionate children. Does anyone else have a baby like this? Is there anything I can do to help him be more affectionate, or is this just the way he is? I was hearing yesterday about someone's 5-month old that was giving them kisses. It has just made me so sad. I am not like some mom's who feel touched out by the end of the day. I'm actually craving affection from my husband because I've been giving so much of myself all day with no physical affection given in return. I'm really so thankful for LO and how happy and smiley he is, so I'm trying not to let this get me down.