outdoorsy - Vent away. It's good to keep all of this in perspective. We went through a year of waiting to adopt, and we met so many people who were on their last hope to have children. It's useful to remember that, even when this process is frustrating, we have it as an option. I go through periods of being so angry that most people can have kids without any cost or struggle... and then they complain about birth control. Cry me a river. It's all irrational, but sometimes you just need to vent.
cordelia - Glad you came to that conclusion. We have a KD as well, and his feelings and preferences matter, too. It's kind of like navigating an open adoption relationship - not quite, but being prepared for that situation has helped in thinking about it. If he wants to take a month off, nothing can force him, and plenty of things can alienate him. Good luck!
afu - 12 DPO and not much going on. Temperature dipped significantly yesterday and came right back up today, so obviously we are hopeful it was an implantation dip, but we know it could be nothing. Tested this morning anyway, still negative. Trying to be calm. Whatever we do, we'll pretty much know for sure in two or three days anyway.