anyone have an older babe that needs swaddling?
i cannot seem to get my son to sleep unless he is wrapped tightly. i keep wondering if i am imagining this, but every time i try to get him to sleep in just pj's, he will fight and fight sleep. Then as soon as i've got him swaddled, off to sleep he goes. He definitely fights the process of getting swaddled, but once he's snug tight and I nurse him side-lying, he's off to sleep within a couple of minutes. Without the swaddle, he kicks, flails and moves all of his limbs crazily, making it so that there's no way he could fall asleep peacefully.
have i created this situation somehow? I swaddled him a little in his first couple of weeks, but then stopped. But then one day when he was a few months old, i did it for some reason (i think it was particularly cold out) and he slept soundly for hours. So I started doing it off and on and really seemed to notice that it made him sleep better. fast-forward to now, and the last couple months we're doing it every time he sleeps (naps and night)
Now here's the problem.. he's a little old for it now / too active. he's strong enough that he'll start out contained but he gets out of the swaddle several times during the night and wakes wailing and i'm having to reswaddle to get him back to sleep. when this happens 5 or so times, it makes for some seriously disturbed sleep for all of us.
anyone else have this experience? what did you do? do i need to "wean" him from the swaddle? the couple of times i've resolved to try this, i've succumbed to the swaddle. He just flails so much without a swaddle, that it's too tempting for me to do the thing that works (especially once i'm sleep deprived and feeling desperate). Do i just suck it up and stick to "re-training" him?
I'm not interested in any type of crying it out. But would appreciate gentle means of helping this babe sleep better. And I am aware of the sort of "controversy" of swaddling, and i go back and forth about how i feel about it. It really seems, though, that he finds it comforting. He's the kind of kid that i don't think would just succumb to sleep because he gives up and can't move. I think it really calms him somehow.