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A lot of moms don't like the pink princessy phase their dds go through but are you ok with the black clothing, skulls and crossbones or "rocker chic" phase that a lot of girls are interested in later? Does anyone not allow that kind of clothing in their homes? 


Edited by momma2beaugirls - 7/26/12 at 1:27pm
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I think those phases would be happening like 10 years apart from eachother so it wouldn't really be either or. I mostly just don't want anything 'sexy'/revealing in our house (we are bikini-free, for example)

post #3 of 35

Since my kids wore camo pants and Thomas the tank engine shirts with etnies until they decided they liked all the other stuff, I don't care.  They're both girls. 

 

I don't allow short shorts or dresses without shorts ( these girls will hang upside down in a dress). 

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My kids can wear what they want as long as it isn't sexually revealing.  I want them to feel that they can be who they want and express themselves as who they are.  While skulls and crossbones aren't what I would choose for myself, I know that my kids may have different styles and opinions than me.  

post #6 of 35

I LOVE THOSE SHOES!!!!!

post #7 of 35
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I think those phases would be happening like 10 years apart from eachother so it wouldn't really be either or. I mostly just don't want anything 'sexy'/revealing in our house (we are bikini-free, for example)

Yes they could be happening far apart. Thats why I said "later" as in years later :) But I don't know...I've heard lots of stories about how girls went from the pink phase obsession immediately to the darker "rock and skull" phase. Like one day they woke up and decided it was too babyish so they decided to go to the other extreme. I see lots of that skull and guitar clothing in 4-6x sizes displayed right next to the disney princess stuff! 

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A lot of moms don't like the pink princessy phase their dds go through but are you ok with the black clothing, skulls and crossbones or "rocker chic" phase that a lot of girls are interested in later? Does anyone not allow that kind of clothing in their homes? I don't like either one but would much rather go with pink and girly if I had to choose! 

 

 

What's your issue with it?  I don't understand it honestly.  Do you consider it negative? 

post #9 of 35
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What's your issue with it?  I don't understand it honestly.  Do you consider it negative? 

Not negative exactly...kind of hard to describe on here. Skulls have always creeped me out, I don't like how they look on anything. I find it looks ugly and tacky on clothing. The rock star stuff just sends out this "hip, cool sexy" vibe to me. Again hard to explain properly. 


Edited by momma2beaugirls - 7/26/12 at 12:26pm
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Not negative exactly...kind of hard to describe on here. Skulls have always creeped me out, I don't like how they look on anything. I find it looks ugly and tacky on clothing. The rock star stuff just sends out this "hip, cool sexy" vibe to me. Again hard to explain properly. 

Hi OP:  I think one of the things that I have to keep in mind is that except for stuff that sexualizes kids or is generally offensive or inappropriate (like stuff on t-shirts), I need to remember that my DD is an individual who will always be looking for ways to express herself, including the very real need of a lot of tweens and teens to feel "cool." 

 

I personally don't get a "sexy" vibe from cross bones.  I'm a big fan of Day of the Dead and I collect a lot of that stuff.  I was actually bummed when places like Children's Place started its skull campaign because it made me feel sort like mass-marketing had finally tread into my territory, my tastes. 

 

When I was in grade school and junior high in the '70s, I was not allowed to wear jeans to school because my dad (who was mired in a lot of old fashioned notions about fashion) would "never let his kid be seen in public with dungarees!"  I laugh about it now, but when I was a teen, it really bummed me out that my parents disapproved so much of my desire to either fit in (or as I got older - to stand out or be different).  It was a constant source of friction and I think that our time would have been better served on other things besides fashion issues.  I rebelled against them eventually and in more ways than one. 

 

A sense of self-respect, (and for me, a certain degree of modesty), as well as confidence, is far more important than the style or the genre.  I can't help of thinking of the Winona Ryder character in the movie Beetlejuice.  Now there was a kid with a distinct fashion sense!  Yet, she was a good kid, a thoughtful kid, a little weird...but that's okay. 

post #11 of 35
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I personally don't get a "sexy" vibe from cross bones. 

 

LOL thanks for the laugh! I didn't say I got a sexy vibe from crossbones ROTFLMAO.gif

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I personally don't get a "sexy" vibe from cross bones. 

 

LOL thanks for the laugh! I didn't say I got a sexy vibe from crossbones ROTFLMAO.gif

Whoops, my bad.  But, we all do have different interpretations of things, no?  I brought up the skull issue because I'm a big fan of skull images (but for reasons other than fashion). 

 

But I'll stand by the jist of my post:  parents aren't always going to like the fashions of their kids' times.  It's a given.  Nothing new.  I just find that self-respect is far more important than squabbles over stuff like current trends.  I hate pink but my DD definitely went through a pink and tutu phase, much to my chagrin.  But if that made her feel confident, then I just had to grit my teeth.  I draw the line only at things which I believe overtly sexualize little kids or cause unnecessary restrictions on natural play (yes, talking to you Target and the high heels for 5-year-olds that you marketed at the beginning of the summer).  But that's just me.  That's where I personally draw the line. 

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Ok now you're just being sweet...duh.gif

Really? You just gotta have an issue with me no matter what I say I guess! 


Edited by momma2beaugirls - 7/26/12 at 2:17pm
post #14 of 35

I usually wear skull and spider earrings, and we have some Day of the Dead stuff up in our house. DDs are in a Spanish program, so they celebrate this holiday, plus my culture has a similar holiday, so I find nothing creepy about it. That said, one DD did have a major pink phase, but we just rolled with it, and it passed. She is still in a "cute puppy/kitten" phase, but that's her personality. The other one is more into a hippy/funky-type phase with a dose of purple hair. Most hair and clothes stuff is OK with me. The only minor arguments come when they need to dress slightly more formally/"nicely" for an event - neither one likes that. Neither of them has been interested in revealing clothes, so that hasn't been an issue yet.
 

post #15 of 35

I don't have a problem with my daughter wearing any type or genre of clothing, style at all.  I might personally not wear some of it, but I want her to figure her own style out and be herself.  She happens to wear a really cool mix of different styles and her own set of "rules".  Like, she is ok with a little pink, but not super girly.  She likes flowers, but again, not if it's too little girlish.  She layers different prints and colors, she MUST wear shorts under skirts and dresses, every time. lol (I've tried to get her to ease up on this a bit, especially if we are not going to be anywhere with a playground or something and we are running late and her shorts are not clean, but to no avail.)  She's very distinctive, and this may just be what she would be like no matter what, but I'd like to think that a part of her "okayness" with being herself and claiming her own style is that I've let her figure it out without censure.

I will say that so far, she's been pretty immune to peer pressure with clothing.  She has her criteria to meet, like comfort and her own taste and that is pretty much all she cares about. (She has, however, gotten a lot of flack from her father when she goes to his house and it just crushes her.  He hates the way she dresses and makes arbitrary rules like no yoga pants to the grocery store.  She worries about what clothes she wears there so he won't say anything bad to her)

 

My only rules have been making sure  (and this is for all my kids) they have weather appropriate clothes, and nothing too darn revealing, and the clothing I buy needs to be well made. My guidelines on modesty might be a less strict than others though, I'm ok with two piece bathing suits, shorter shorts, etc.

 

Incidentally, I really hate all the Hannah Montana style clothing, I understand where you are coming from on that.  But I try to bite my tongue and let her figure it out.  I have always loved skulls though, and so does she. ;-) 

 

(I'm also cracking up at her internally a lot right now, she's recently read a series about middle school aged vampires.  the vamps in the town are called Goths and dress in black and stuff but are really harmless.  She's now "into goth" and likes the cutesy skullys and stuff. "omg mom, isn't this so goth? " Snicker)

 

Sorry, one more thing.  I grew up in a very conservative christian household.  My mom had a similar way with me that I'm taking with my daughter and I was so thankful.  She got a lot of flack from her friends and people in the church because I would wear all black with combat boots, but she always said "seriously?  If I can let her have freedoms with as much as possible and this is the worst we deal with?  I'm ok." .  I went through a lot of fashion phases but never to rebel, because there wasn't anything to rebel against.

post #16 of 35

I'm glad to see this thread, b/c it's a good reminder that I'll need to be choosing my battles wisely. I personally don't like the skull/crossbones stuff -- it creeps me out and is kinda gruesome, IMO. Like why would I want an image of the remains of a decomposed corpse on my clothes? And my first reaction to the OP was, I'd never let my kids wear that stuff. But after reading the responses here, I know I'll probably have to let it go. It's a trend/fad, and it's not like it's extremely violent or graphic in nature. Thankfully, my son is still into fire trucks on his clothes, but I know that will be ending shortly... Thanks for the perspective!

post #17 of 35

 Don't care.

 

Though I don't care about characters or princesses either.
 

post #18 of 35
I would only be bothered by it if my daughter (or son) wanted to change their physical appearance to much. I would have a hard time with the goth look of dyed black hair or facial piercings in extreme or anything that is perminit. I would try and find a middle ground that would allow them to express themselves without destroying their natural beauty.
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Really? You just gotta have an issue with me no matter what I say I guess! 

Look, the only thing that you responded to me in my post above was a "LOL".  It speaks volumes, OP.  You attack me for a mistake but you don't address the meaning and intent of my post.  Enough said.  Been there, done that, don't want to offer any other advice.  I see what I'm dealing with here.

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Look, the only thing that you responded to me in my post above was a "LOL".  It speaks volumes, OP.  You attack me for a mistake but you don't address the meaning and intent of my post.  Enough said.  Been there, done that, don't want to offer any other advice.  I see what I'm dealing with here.

What???? I'm so confused!! Wasn't talking to you sweetie! Look who I'm quoting, its not you! Didn't take any offense to what you said at all! 

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