In a nutshell, we are brand new to Gentle Discipline in our home. I REALLY regret choices we have made in the past with our children and want to rectify things for a healthy future and family. For instance saying things like "there is no reason to cry" (feeling stuffing..not addressing LO's feeling and helping them work through it) or not working with LOs through temper tantrums. Instead DH and I would get upset and automatically do time out. I don't want to be the parent to blow my kids' feelings off, spank ever (never ever), or not listen to what they have to say.
Because of the way we were doing things....I thought was right at the time (you know because children MUST obey or else you will raise horrible adults... sarcasm), I feel disconnected with my 6yo. I feel like I know her less and haven't been in tune with how she looks at the world. I love her, listen to her, spend time with her...but I would love to have a closer relationship with her. Things like hugs and kisses sometimes feel like obligations. Gosh she is such a sweet, motherly little kid! It makes me feel sick and sad to think I simply haven't shown her enough physical affection often enough that a hug doesn't always come naturally.
What can I do at this point to really connect with her? She is only 6! She loves reading, maybe daddy can take care of the younger kids and DD and I can cuddle up to read books tomorrow. Books/ reading might be a good starting point.
We also stopped homeschooling and switched to public school, so I don't see her most of the day. Its all just sad and I am ready to do something about it