I haven't spent much time on mothering.com lately, but when I have something that's really bothering me I always find good information here. I am hoping someone can help guide me in helping my 5 year old daughter, or will tell me I don't need to worry!
My daughter has started exhibition some behaviors that have worried me enough to call her pediatrician. When I talked to the nurse there over the phone he said it sounded like Separation Anxiety, which really surprised me because I've never had a problem dropping her off at preschool, a friends house, or any classes. The nurse said I should come in and talk to her pediatrician and she would probably need a psych evaluation. I ended up cancelling that appointment. I am not sure why. I guess I am afraid of her having to go talk to someone and making this some big deal in her mind.
The first thing that she started doing that worried me was saving candy wrappers and tags from clothing. She did that for awhile and then she stopped it, for the most part. I never made a big deal about it. I gave her a treasure box to put those things into. Then a couple months ago she started a new behavior that seems to be related. She refused to wear her hair back for swim lessons for fear of losing the hair band. She had a completely meltdown when she accidentally wore one in the pool one time. I've tried giving her just cheap plain rubber bands, one of my hair bands, asking her to wear one for one dunk in the water and then take it out. She has refused it all. Just me asking her to try results in tears and her proclaiming she will never learn to swim if she has to wear her hair back. She is also afraid of things flying away. If she takes her shoes off at the park I have to hold them, even if there is no wind. At the parade last night a clown tried to make her a balloon animal, but she refused it because she didn't want something that would pop. Her brother accidentally flushed a cloth wipe down the toilet and you would have thought he flushed a cat down by the way she screamed. I could go on and on. She would rather not enjoy having something that would bring other children happiness because the idea of losing it is too traumatizing to her. I've had other parents say that this is most likely just a phase and I wonder if I am just making a bigger deal out of it than it is. I just hate to see her so upset.
I guess my question is, does this sound like a normal phase for a 5 year old, or should I go ahead and pursue having her evaluated? Thanks for any input!