My son is 6 months old and I'm a first time mom who is loosing her mind from lack of sleep and taking it out on hubby. We used a combo of cosleeping and bassinet (while I was breastfeeding) until he was about 3 months old. I'm not BF anymore (long story) but we have continued to cosleep with the crib attached to our bed with one side down. I dont sleep at all because any noise or movement wakes me up, then i move which wakes him up (rinse and repeat all night). He usually ends up as close to me as he can (feet, head, or hands) because of course he loves his mommy (and his mommy loves him!) but its starting to really wear on me and my hubby (who is getting the brunt of my mental breakdown caused by sleep deprivation). I just dont know what to do. I do know i made this situation what it is because i held him to sleep for a long time (he was in the hospital for a week with a UTI that needed IV meds and he wouldnt sleep in the crib at all, so that was it for any progress i had made) Then my hubby was in the hospital on and off since May 24 weekend and needed his sleep so again, yep, bad mom held baby downstairs while hubby tried to recover.
I feel like hes ready for his own sleep area (or maybe its me thats ready) but I just dont know how to do it. I miss him already. He falls asleep okay and will sleep in his crib for the first part of the night but around 2 am the rocking and rolling and partying starts. I am now fearful that he will get too close and i will crush him, not that i sleep that soundly but when you are exhausted you sure can pass out!
He naps in his crib okay, for about 30-45 min but he hasnt learned to fall asleep by himself (add that to the list of things this first time mom has done wrong). I don't mind the nap situation, its the nighttime that is making me /cry. I have a bedtime routine of bath, bottle, snuggles, rocking, reading, his eyes close, then i put him down, and that seems to work most nights. I know that development milestones do cause sleep disruption (he is rolling over and thinking about crawling) so its hard for me to separate the effects of that from the effects of the problems ive created.
sorry for the long post and garbled madness. The mind doesnt work well these days.
So my question(s).
How do I go about getting him to sleep better by himself without looking for me? I cannot stand the thought of him CIO, so I wont go there. I've read many books and posts and suggestions but its just so much info and Im having trouble applying it (Mush brain!). I was thinking of putting the crib back in his room and putting a bed in there for us to sleep in to make it easier to transition. Im "hoping" that within a week or so he will "get it" that mom isnt there and thats okay and boy is it great to fall asleep on my own, but hey, maybe im delusional more than i realize?
Any thoughts tips ideas words of wisdom comfort anything?
From a lost first time mom who doesnt know what is right but knows she loves her baby and cant stand to see him or hubby suffer because shes a lunatic.