I don't know if this is the right forum, I'm basically talking about computer screens as well as TV screens. I have been TV free since leaving my parental home but never had a reason for it, just that TV wasn't my thing. My partner has since moved in and isn't bothered either by no tv and since we have had a baby I am questioning why I am TV free (just i guess becuase im questioning everything in regard to DS's life.) So I am really happy to be tv free still and wont be changing that. But my partner does a LOT of his work on the computer (he's training to be a games designer but thankfully doesnt play computer/video games). He has his desk and laptop up in the attic and DS who is 1 and a half is too small to go up there, it is a complete hazard area but thats another story. I don't use the computer when with DS but do tend to do my research on it when he's in bed. I;m starting my masters as well next month so will probably have my computer in full view a lot so it's ready for me to get straight in to my work when DS is asleep. My mother introduced DS to little singysong short childrens cartoons on her iphone when he was a few months old and I was not impressed. but the iphone features HEAVILY when he is at their house 2.5 days a week while I work, mainly photo taking and then showing DS the photos and playing little videos. I guiltily also broke one difficult morning when I was stressed and put his favourit video thing on youtube and since then he has asked for it, cried when I wont turn the computer on and is OBSESSED with my phone pictures and holding the phone to his ear. I try and hide the laptop but our house is so tiny that is difficult.
My partner also sits and reads the newspaper on the iphone CONSTANTLY to relax and I feel this is showing DS that is is fine to be constantly looking at screens.
My dilemma is how can I tell/show DS that it is not healthy if everyone around him is using screens? i feel like a complete hypocrit. My parents have a huge tv that they dont really watch much and definately not in the day time normally but when its things like the football, olympics, wimbledon etc etc its on non-stop. Is it fair of me to ask they dont watch what they want to wtch in their own house? I feel like a constant nag ("please dont give him cows milk/your iphone/sugar, please dont watch tv when he's there") and I feel that people think im an overprotective "natural la la la mother" (that what I have been called by a friend). One little movie turns into two though and so on..
Has anyone got any advice? I feel so stressed just thinking about how I want it and how it IS.