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Mamabeakley-  Thank you for your perspective as a doula, I'll admit, I was secretly hoping for some inside advice.  I will relay your message to DH as well.  I hope you have recovered from the family trip!  Sounds like things got a little crazy.  Although we don't homeschool, I'm also craving a little more structure to our summer schedule, I think its a mama thing...doesn't seem to bother anyone else in the householdlove.gif  And congrats on the insurance!  What a relief.

Darkblue-So happy to hear that you've also reached the preggers happy zone.  I don't blame you one bit for missing the northeast, it sounds like the place for your family.  I'm sure you will make it back there soon.  Your family will have their sustainable compound in the northeast, we'll have ours on the Big Island, and we can visit each other!

Segolily-Crossing my fingers on your grant proposal!  You absolutely deserve to be paid.  I'm having visions of you have some extra money just for the sweet babe.  I hear you on the DH driving trouble, sometimes we get pushed to the edge!  I hope its been resolved.  

Eandko-Love the good news on the whole scan and the cyst, that's fab!

Phatchristy-My mom always says that when you feel overwhelmed, start with the easiest thing first, it really does help the momentum.  I hope you have a lovely time with your best friend!  I'm sure she'll love hanging out in your loving, chaotic life for a bit.

AlaskaAnne-What a bummer about your DH!  How is he feeling?  Sorry to hear your trip is postponed, but so glad you are able to reschedule!  

Travelmumma-I keep waking up on my back too!  Just roll onto your side, all will be well.  It's true, soon you'll be wedged in a mess of 50 pillows ROTFLMAO.gif

Cieloazul-Congratulations on your sweet girl!  It's so funny that the word labia can bring so much happiness.  I have almost 13 years between my girls, so I know how much the second time can feel like the first time all over again!  So much to look forward to, yay!

MillieIvy-Thanks for the homecooked breakfast idea!  5 sounds do-able if it's the same every week.  I think I'll borrow your plan.

Kel-I cannot say enough how much I admire the grace you carry while dealing with such a difficult situation.  It breaks my heart to hear that your DD is having such a hard time.  Recovery is so, so, so, hard.  Like you mentioned, all of her behaviors sound "normal" for someone who is in her shoes, but watching her go through it must be gut wrenching.  You two will come through this beautifully, I just know it.  Glad the little bubs is behaving!

We got our news yesterday...we are having a boy!  I am still in shock, but in a wonderful way.  I knew deep down that we were having a boy, I could just feel something different than my other two pregnancies.  A couple of weeks ago I had a very peaceful boy dream, and then later that day I saw a mama running down the sidewalk with a little boy and I was overcome with a surreal feeling.  I think I'm shocked just because I have never had a baby boy, and I'm not sure what to do!  I have two sisters, two daughters, and two nieces.  We're going to tell our families on Saturday, my dad is going to flip :)

post #22 of 47

Right - the left side - that's what I meant! haha. Either way, sleeping on your side is better than your back or tummy and I just wouldn't worry about it too much travelmumma.

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Edited by nhklh - 11/13/13 at 7:33pm
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Augghh.  My back is out again.  Not as bad as AlaskAnne's hubby, but I'm really uncomfortable.  :-(  All I did was stand up, too - it's not like I did something dumb.  Grump.  And it's our anniversary today, too.  Although, to be honest, we didn't have any big plans - I planned a more fun dinner and bought a cheesecake since we had cheesecake for our wedding cake!

 

nhklh - I think I'd keep the text simple but courteous, because that's what it is - a courtesy on your part.  Something like, "I wanted to let you know that we are expecting our third baby in December.  Looking forward to seeing you soon."  No drama necessary!

 

esp - congrats on the boy!  It will be great :-)  Although I have sympathy for the 'what do I do with this?' feeling - if I have a girl I'm going to feel that way because there are NO pairs of sisters in my family for 4 or 5 generations.  My husband does have sisters, but me, my mother, my grandmothers, my great-grandmothers - all were only girls!


Edited by Mamabeakley - 8/1/12 at 7:32am
post #25 of 47

Esp - congrats on the boy!

 

Kel - hang in there, you are an amazing mom. remember, this too shall pass.  :)

 

Phatchristy - I hear you about feeling like nothing is getting done and I don't even have any kids! Phew. This weekend I feel like have to get at least ONE project done - potentially paint a second hand dresser that I want to use for the baby's stuff.

 

MamaB - so sorry about your back!  it sounds like you did exactly what my husband did - make a seemingly innocuous move that set off the pain (he reached to grab the phone).  take care of yourself and find a comfortable position would be my advice.  If you are into herbs there is one I can recommend if you want (although I'm not sure about taking it during pregnancy...hmm)

 

as for my husband, he is doing a lot better! thanks everyone for your concern.  He has gone on two walks around the neighborhood now and feeling a lot more loosened up overall.  If he is feeling up to it this weekend we may try to to do something fun, like go out to our cabin.  one exciting thing that has happened is that we can feel the baby outside now!  I can't believe that it was only 2 weeks ago that I first felt ANYTHING and now it has gotten so much stronger!

post #26 of 47

Hi Ladies!

Well, during my rough week last week, I didn't have time for much of anything and I went kind of technology dark. This is actually the first time I have been on my computer in a week. I am hoping I have enough time to write some quick responses to all of you and give a quick update on myself while BOTH of my little ones are napping (AWESOME!).

 

Esp - Congrats on the baby boy news! I love that you really sensed it before you actually found out, and I can't wait to hear how your family reacts.

Darkblue - I, too, am looking forward to being pregnant in the fall, although we won't get a break temperature-wise until about the end of October (ugh, Texas gulf coast summers last soooo long!). The Northeast sounds like a lovely place to live and I really hope your family gets to return there sooner rather than later.

Segolily - Good luck on your grant. I will keep my fingers crossed for you. When will you find out about the results?

Eandko - That is such great news about your cyst shrinking! Hoping that you continue to hear good news on that front.

Phatchristy - Keep us updated on the visit from your friend. I am sure that she will love spending some time with you, no matter what.

Alaskanne - Glad to hear that your husband is on the mend. And I love that your whole family seems to be in the healing world. How lovely!

Travelmumma - I would not worry so much about right side versus left side. But yeah, I swear, that most of us probably wake up a half dozen times each night uncomfortable and/or having to pee. The worst is when I have trouble getting back to sleep and I just lay there trying to get back to sleep for HOURS. I joke that it is preparing us for waking up with a newborn.

Cieloazul - Congratulations on the baby girl! I love that you were thinking you wanted a boy and your mind changed so quickly.

Millie - I hope all goes well with home cooked breakfasts. Would you care to share your menu? I feel like I get in such a rut with breakfast (hmmm, cereal or eggs & toast, pretty much every day, I need some inspiration!).

Kel - You are such an amazing mom, seeing your daughter through her recovery so well. I can't imagine being in your shoes. I hope that you are getting the support you need and you are taking care of you, too.

Nhklh - Your boy sounds adorable! Happy birthday to him!

Mamabeakley - Oh no! I am sorry about your back. I hope that you get back on your feet quickly.

 

Lets see, as for me, I will have to keep this update short because both of my kids woke up while writing the above! I have them settled with a snack for a few minutes but I need to get dinner started and do some housework before my husband gets home. I am really behind on housework. I really need a laundry fairy, especially an ironing fairy. I tend to leave my clothes sitting in the dryer for too long, meaning I end up with way too much to iron from each load of clothes. And ironing is just awful while pregnant, standing on my feet for so long, it makes me hurt just thinking about it. In general, I am just trying to get back into a routine. My sonogram last week gave us two pieces of good news. 1) Its another boy! My son is very excited, my daughter is less than thrilled, but we are trying to make her see the value in being the only girl, like no sharing a room. 2) No trace of the tear in the placenta that caused my hemorrhage. That means I am cleared for, um, intimacy, and working out. I have already resumed one of the above and I am looking forward to lifting weights again, too. Before the hemorrhage, I was really keeping up with my workouts, I swim a lot, lift weights and do some dry land cardio, too. And going from doing a lot to NONE during the past couple months has meant that I really packed on pounds quickly. I am hoping that I can ease back into working out and really keep my weight gain in check.

I have some decisions to make with work coming up because the team that I coach for scaled back my hours significantly this fall, I am assuming as a result of my bed rest during May/June, and concerns about me staying healthy enough to coach this fall. Well, I am not even sure it is worth it to have a babysitter for so few hours every week, when I don't make a ton of money and so much of it would go to childcare. But I love what I do, and I love the kids that I coach, I just feel really undervalued by the management.

Okay, got to run, kids are needing some entertainment. Here is hoping that they will stay occupied with play-doh while I get housework done and dinner made!

post #27 of 47

Esp-Congrats on your sweet baby boy mama!! love.gif And yes, we will most deinitely be visiting each other!!

Mamabeakley-So sorry to hear about your back mama, sending some healing vibes your way!

Nhklh-Your son sounds so sweet :) I hope that you are able to tell your mother in a way tha honors you and your feelings mama, it can be so tough when you don't feel close to a biological parent but still have to interact with them, you wil be in my thoughts.

Alaskanne-Glad to hear your hubster is on the mend!

Deegee- Congrats on a boy mama!!!! And on getting the green light on resuming pants-less parties partytime.gif

 

Hope all is well mamas, I'm off to roll some veggie sushi :)

post #28 of 47

travelmumma - I haven't had a chance to tell you congrats on finding a new and improved midwife. It is so nice when everything works out for the best. I am still sleeping ok, but I have definitely added a few pillows to the mix to keep comfy. 

 

cieloazul - hooray for labia! 

 

kel - those rattles are so cute! You are one seriously talented mama. As others have expressed, your grace is impressive through this stressful time for you and your family. 

 

alaskanne - glad to hear that your husband is doing better

 

mamabeakley - Happy anniversary! I hope your back starts cooperating and you are able to have a proper celebration.

 

esp and deegee - Congratulations on your boys!

 

AFM I got some great news from my bosses yesterday. Not only did I get a 10% raise, but they have also decided to cover the half of my salary that won't be covered by state disability insurance for my maternity leave. This means that I can take 4 weeks before the baby is born and 12 weeks after the baby is born fully paid. The second six weeks can be taken all at once or slowly over a year, so if I want I can choose to go back to work part time and get paid for full time for a while. This is a huge blessing for me and my family as I am the primary bread winner and I am feeling really lucky. I got pretty emotional when they told me, which was a little embarrassing.  

 

Like everyone, I am feeling a lot more movement. My partner was only able to feel some movement once, but I am sure that will change soon since the movements are getting a lot stronger. I am feeling like she has become particularly fond of kicking my bladder the last few days, which is pretty uncomfortable. I suppose that is only going to get worse ;)

 

I have started looking for a doula and am starting to feel pretty discouraged about it already. There are many doulas in my area (San Francisco Bay area), but since most of the more experienced doulas here charge around $1,000 to $1,400 a birth I was hoping to find someone a little cheaper like a newer doula or a student. I absolutely do not begrudge doulas the money they earn and I think they are worth every penny (and would gladly pay it if it I had it), but upwards of $1,000 is a little out of my price range. I am not necessarily looking for a free doula, and I would like to pay her something, though. I have contacted a few doula trainers but have either not heard back from them or have gotten the discouraging opinion that I am going to have a hard time finding a doula for December. I have also contacted a few more experience doulas just in case. I know I have a while to go still, but I am starting to get worried that this is going to take a lot more work than I was anticipating.


Edited by kateadelle - 8/1/12 at 9:03pm
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I'm so jealous of all of your partners feeling movement from outside! Last night there was a full-on RAVE in my belly - complete with slam-dancing & chest thumping bass (hiccups) lol - and DP couldn't feel a thing! I was amazed. I mean, I have a little bit of fat between baby & the outside world, but not so much that he shouldn't have felt something. Ah well, soon enough I guess. I just want him connected to this growing being soon :)

 

Kate - do you know anyone who has a lot of experience around birth but isn't necessarily trained as a doula? That might be a solution to your issue. Ask around - I have a few friends who have been to many births & are highly educated in the area who will do this kind of thing. But from Utah is a bit too far of a commute ;)

 

darkblue, I'm just gonna start showing up at your house around dinnertime....

 

DeeGee I'm glad to hear all is well :)

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Kate - do you know anyone who has a lot of experience around birth but isn't necessarily trained as a doula? That might be a solution to your issue. Ask around - I have a few friends who have been to many births & are highly educated in the area who will do this kind of thing. But from Utah is a bit too far of a commute ;)

When I lived in Southern California, I actually worked as a doula so I had lots of birthy friends I could ask - up here not so much. I have almost no friends who even have kids much less are into birth. I had thought about asking a friend I have who is a massage therapist and yoga teacher, she doesn't have any "doula" experience per se, but she has had two beautiful drug-free hospital births (one of which I was privileged enough to witness as I was her doula at her last birth). And I still might do that. Honestly, more than anything I have been pretty disappointed with my experience with the doula community here so far - it is like I have the plague because I am having a baby around christmas! Just this morning I finally got a response from one of the experienced doulas, but she can't do it because she is planning on going out of town for the holidays.  I have faith that the right person will come along, I just didn't think it would be so difficult that find someone...

 

Also, I am mostly with you on the partner not feeling anything. She felt movement briefly a week or so ago and since then nothing. It completely shocks me that she can't feel it when it feels like this kid is having a party in my uterus!

post #31 of 47

I've been wanting to catch up on this thread all week but things have just been too crazy! 

 

ESP, congrats on a boy! So very exciting! Hopefully the "what do I do" feeling will also translate into "new and exciting". :) I bet your dad really is going to be thrilled, how cool!

 

AlaskAnne, so glad your husband's back is feeling better! Back pain really is the worst. So exciting that you're feeling outside movement -- how many weeks along are you? I can't wait to share the movement with my DH.

 

Kat, what amazing news on your job! Raise AND extra paid time off? Super bonus!

 

Re:sleeping -- so far I haven't had much trouble falling asleep, but I definitely wake up a lot around 4 or 5am. I can sleep on my side pretty easily, but lately I've just been feeling uncomfortable over all. I agree though that you shouldn't be freaked out about waking up on your back. That's why you woke up! :)

 

We have our first ultrasound appt today at 3:15! I can't wait to find out if it's a boy or a girl, and I'm also really looking forward to hearing that everything looks good. I'll admit, I'm a little nervous -- I know I shouldn't be, but this is the first scan we've had, and I'm hoping everything is in place exactly as it should be. It's funny, I'm also a little nervous about finding out what we're having. From the beginning, I felt like it was a boy, but then we found a girl name we liked and I started really warming up to the idea of a girl. DH's family will be thrilled if it's a girl, since they're almost all boys (on both sides), but then again if it's a boy he will have plenty of boy cousins, etc. I know we will be excited either way, and I really can't believe today is finally the day. I need to go get some OJ to sip on before the appointment -- want to be sure the baby is moving around plenty!

 

Other than that, things have been pretty nuts with moving/packing. I'm hoping to get a lot done Saturday, and then next week I have to get ready to go on vacation for a week. I'm really looking forward to a week of just hanging out with family and not being stressed; it's much needed. We're also still praying everything goes through with our sponsor and visa so we can make it over to Wales in a timely manner. 

 

Needless to say...lots of stuff running around in my head lately! Definitely need to do some more yoga/meditation. :)

post #32 of 47

I posted this in my Sciatica thread, but I wanted to mention it here for anyone who is having trouble sleeping on their side.  I bought a Snoogle body pillow based on all the good reviews on Amazon. It's a long, c-shaped pillow that will keep you on your side with your legs, knees, and ankles supported.  I've slept on it two nights so far and actually slept all through the night and woke up in the same position I started off in.  I bought the organic version.  The part where you put your head is a little firm for me, but I don't mind it too much.  I was having very bad pain in my leg and sleeping on this pillow made the pain go away completely!

post #33 of 47

Just a quick update to say -- we're having a boy! Apparently my intuition was right. :) The ultrasound went really well. We still have to wait for the "official" results from our midwife, but everything seemed to be measuring right on (down to the day). It was so amazing to be able to see our little baby; we even got to see him yawn! 

 

Here's a video of us finding out:

 

https://vimeo.com/46878815

 

My sweet sister and brother in law helped film us and give us the cans (sans-lids) so we didn't know until we sprayed the silly string! 

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Chica - that is a seriously sweet video. Congrats on your son!

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Chica - what a cute video. It's making me think a little more creatively about how I might announce to my husband and family....

 

I envy all of you who have made it to 20 weeks already! I feel behind at 18.5!

 

I have been having some strange symptoms the last week, I have self-diagnosed "irritable uterus" even though it's the worst-named condition (along with "incompetent cervix"). When I have been stressed or have a full bladder, or even a slightly full bladder, I have been having BH-type contractions and a weird kind of pressure that makes me feel like I have to pee all the time, like every ten minutes. I might not worry much about it, except that I already have history of preterm labor and other factors. Anyone else experience this? I feel better when I lay down, generally, but I certainly don't want to lay down for the next 18 weeks!

 

I'm feeling movement, but it's pretty gentle movement, unlike some of you with the dancing raver babies. I love it, and it's so reassuring.

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Sunseeker - I'm kind of the same way.  And it does worry me.  Have you been tested for a UTI?  I had one around this time in my last pregnancy, and alarmingly, it turned out to be a GBS infection.  We treated it and I was more or less okay the rest of the pregnancy (although my daughter was born at 36.4 weeks).  I thought I was getting  a UTI earlier this pregnancy, but the tests were negative.  I find that I need to drink MORE, and I need to rest more, and so far I'm okay.

post #37 of 47
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When I lived in Southern California, I actually worked as a doula so I had lots of birthy friends I could ask - up here not so much. I have almost no friends who even have kids much less are into birth. I had thought about asking a friend I have who is a massage therapist and yoga teacher, she doesn't have any "doula" experience per se, but she has had two beautiful drug-free hospital births (one of which I was privileged enough to witness as I was her doula at her last birth). And I still might do that. Honestly, more than anything I have been pretty disappointed with my experience with the doula community here so far - it is like I have the plague because I am having a baby around christmas! Just this morning I finally got a response from one of the experienced doulas, but she can't do it because she is planning on going out of town for the holidays.  I have faith that the right person will come along, I just didn't think it would be so difficult that find someone...

Hi Kate!  I am in the Bay Area too!  I am in the East Bay - where are you located?  I would love to meet up with some local like minded mamas due around the same time as me!  Are you a subscriber to the Berkeley Parents Network newsletter?  If not, it would probably be a great way to find someone and it's totally free - I have found it a very useful resource for lots of things!   Are you planning to birth at home or in the hospital?  I think some of the local hospitals have a kind of "doula on-call" kind of set up, which I believe is free, but of course you wouldn't know who you were getting ahead of time. Also, check out Birthways http://birthways.org/.  They have a "Meet the Doulas" night where you can go and meet a bunch of different doulas.  That one is in Berkeley but there is also the Nuture Center if you are nearer to the Walnut Creek area or DayOne if you are in San Francisco. Good luck with finding someone!

 

Lizzie 

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Hi Kate!  I am in the Bay Area too!  I am in the East Bay - where are you located?  I would love to meet up with some local like minded mamas due around the same time as me!  Are you a subscriber to the Berkeley Parents Network newsletter?  If not, it would probably be a great way to find someone and it's totally free - I have found it a very useful resource for lots of things!   Are you planning to birth at home or in the hospital?  I think some of the local hospitals have a kind of "doula on-call" kind of set up, which I believe is free, but of course you wouldn't know who you were getting ahead of time. Also, check out Birthways http://birthways.org/.  They have a "Meet the Doulas" night where you can go and meet a bunch of different doulas.  That one is in Berkeley but there is also the Nuture Center if you are nearer to the Walnut Creek area or DayOne if you are in San Francisco. Good luck with finding someone!

 

Lizzie 

 

I am in North Oakland. I haven't signed up for Berkeley Parents Network - thanks for the tip! I am signed up to attend a Meet the Doula night in a couple weeks at  Birthways, which I am hopeful about. I am planning a homebirth, so I definitely need to find a doula on my own. I also have a midwife appointment on Monday, so I am going to see if they have any thoughts or recommendations.

 

Would love to meet up some time! You should shoot me a pm sometime and we will figure out what works.

post #39 of 47

Sunseeker, I was going to ask if you've been checked for a UTI, too. 

 

kaliki, I have a snoogle from a friend. I tried it this pregnancy, but found I didn't really need it yet; I used it religiously for DS2's pregnancy, though. I loved that thing!! The only part I dislike is that I would sweat a lot with it, but it's hard as hell to wash. A very minor tradeoff in the scheme of things, though! I'm glad your sciatica has improved from it. 

 

chica, congrats on a boy. I hope your week away helps to give you time to reset and get ready for your move. FX everything goes through smoothly without any hangups.

 

esp and deegee, yay for boys!

 

cielo, yay for a girl! 

 

christy, how's your friend's visit coming? (or is that next week?)

 

...and I've run out of steam and about ready to go to bed early, I'm so tired. (I'm waiting for my heartburn to settle down a bit before trying to lie down. sigh.)

 

 

AFM, It seems like my bladder has realized all of a sudden that my body is pregnant, and maybe baby is sometimes just trampolining on it, too. I haven't had incontinence issues since my pregnancy with DS2--even afterward, I had better bladder control than I did after DS1. But I'm afraid I'm going to need to break out the mama cloth again for potential pee accidents. My hips and pelvis are starting to shift a lot, and even though I still weigh 4lbs LESS than I did when I got my BFP, my underwear isn't fitting right. I'm going to have to suck it up and get the maternity undies at Motherhood, I guess (the leg cutouts are proportioned differently, and the front is lower--for the bikinis--so they sit below the belly). Even though my SPD isn't anywhere near as bad as it was with DS2 at this point, it is coming back. As is my heartburn--OY. I have to time my vitamins and supper extra early so I can take antacids before bed without causing malabsorption problems. 

post #40 of 47

sunseeker - I agree about getting a uti checked out; but also - start drinking a ton of water every day - that almost always seems to help with contractions.  Also, I know how you feel!  I just turn 18 weeks tomorrow - so you're ahead of me at least;)  I have been feeling my babe a lot more in the past few days though, which I love - now when I lay down and put my hand firmly  on my uterus I get a couple big nudges/kicks instead of the gentle swooshing of a week or so earlier.  xox

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