What is he doing???

[wemoon]

X has been acting very weird. He has changed his whole style, new clothes, new haircut etc. And today he brought me flowers! So he is doing all this new appearance stuff for me? He just doesn't get it. Yea, things like how he took care of himself really bothered me, but it wasn't all about that. Does he think he can make me swoon by a new outfit and haircut? I didn't even know what to say when he gave me flowers. I think I said something really stupid, like *what in the world are you doing*? And then my dd ended up claiming the flowers. It was weird. I don't want him back, and flowers will not change that at all.

[mocha09]

Dd's dad has done similar thigns. Shortly after he realized it was over, he bought a new wardrobe and a nicer car (with what money? ). After he had done one particularly stupid thing (showing up drunk in the middle of the night and stealing my car after I called the police) he shaved his head (he said the barber "made a mistake and that was the only way to fix it) and brought me flowers. There was one other time he did something drastic after doing something that I was very angry over, but now I can't remember what it was.

I think that he gets so desperate to reconcile, and knows that everything else he has tried doesn't work, so (subconciously?) does attention-getting things. Could this possible the case for you?

[paloma]

Maybe he needs the pick up for himself. Flowers aside, or included, he might be trying to convince himself that he is a good likeable guy. (I am tending to get a little psychologically subcutaneous nowadays.)

Some men shave their heads before a court action to avert a hair folllicle drug test.

Please keep in mind that you need to be polite, (I know that I am not one to talk about this, but my situation differs from many) as you will be connected to this preson for the next 18 minus your daughter's age years.

[SingleDad]

I agree with Mocha on this one, I think he's tried everything and is trying to do these attention - getting things to gain attention from you that he couldn't get any other way. I'm sure it's hard to hurt his feelings when you once loved him, but it sounds like he needs some good ole fashioned honesty about your feelings.