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post #21 of 32

Chloe's Mama, I am thinking of canceling a playdate too! Not until two weeks from now, I will be 15 weeks and maybe still not showing but not sure I want to take the risk. Depends on the person, I have a playdate with a friend next week and she will be oblivious; the following week it's with a person that I would rather not tell yet.

post #22 of 32

Well I'm now telling people but trying to do it in some kind of order so no ones gets miffed. I changed my privacy setting on facebook so no one can congratulate us on my wall when they find out. I have to do the same with my husband's account too. I don't mind if people see it there after all the family and close friends know. 

post #23 of 32

I had a few play dates with our friends this week and no one asked about the belly, so either is is small enough not to notice, or they are just being kind and not asking.  I am trying to decide when to tell the rest of my family.  I will be 16 weeks on Thursday, and I am feeling bad about not letting my grandmother and some of my aunts know.  I just don't want to talk about it though, so I just keep waiting.  

 

I was going to wait till after our 16 week gender ultrasound, but we may not be getting one, so...... I don't know.

post #24 of 32
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Originally Posted by Chloe'sMama View Post

I had a few play dates with our friends this week and no one asked about the belly, so either is is small enough not to notice, or they are just being kind and not asking.  I am trying to decide when to tell the rest of my family.  I will be 16 weeks on Thursday, and I am feeling bad about not letting my grandmother and some of my aunts know.  I just don't want to talk about it though, so I just keep waiting.  

 

I was going to wait till after our 16 week gender ultrasound, but we may not be getting one, so...... I don't know.

 

yes. this was me the last few weeks - though i still haven't old my grandparents or aunts/uncles etc.  i haven't really  told much of anyone, but my belly is too big to ignore so my friends are figuring it out..  even now that many of them know, i just don't want to talk about it!  why is that?  my friends who know now just DON'T understand! and i can't even say i understand..

post #25 of 32

Totally struggling with this, too.

 

12 weeks and really don't want to tell anyone yet, but my belly is ridiculous and totally giving away the fact that I am pregnant.  I feel like its so tricky to keep waiting and not tell anyone, but I have the nuchal translucency scan and maternit21 tests this week.  I would rather wait until after that to share the news, I guess

 

And I just want to be sure this baby sticks.  After m/c a few months back, there is just no way I want to deal with telling my in laws if we were to have another m/c.

post #26 of 32
I finally told the other vendors (i.sell at farmers markets) this weekend and they were not surprised. I had a couple.other people.ask.me.too, so i guess i am.at the point now.where i can't hide it. It feels strange to have it be out though. With DS, who was born in April, i.was not showing and i didn't tell.most of the non.essential people either, so in the spring i magically appeared with a new baby. I liked it that way. I am almost 15 weeks now, so conventional wisdom would dictate that i am.good.to tell people now, but it still feels.weird (although that could be more along the lines of admitting i had sex...which despite being 39, still.seems.like i am misbehaving).
post #27 of 32

OK so new thing happening... when I give people the news I immediately get all teary eyed. So not like me. Oh hormones. 

post #28 of 32

We have now started telling folks (I'm 15wk4d). I wanted to wait a bit longer, but decided to just to spread the word. I'm been very suprised that everyone has been happy about it (except my DH's parents of course).

post #29 of 32

For those of you who just don't want to tell/talk about it... are you embarrassed? I felt a little embarrassed this time around because this is #3 and unplanned. Definitely didn't feel like way with DS2. I was excited to tell close friends/family this time, but for everyone one else I dreaded it. Are those the feelings any one else is having?

post #30 of 32
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OK so new thing happening... when I give people the news I immediately get all teary eyed.


I had this moment while telling one specific friend recently. I think it was because I was visiting home and he was the guy I used to party with all the time, so it was like an official "this is my life now" moment and it made me really, really sad.

 

Don't get me wrong, we were trying for baby and I'm really excited, but in that moment I thought of all the things I was losing.

post #31 of 32

Finally made the big announcement on facebook today.  DH has been hounding me for months to let him announce it.  I finally said yes and made the news public today (20 weeks).  Feels crazy that I am at the half way point.  I can't wait to meet baby, but it also seems like it has gone by quickly.

post #32 of 32

I also finally made my facebook announcement. On Thursday, when I hit my 20 week mark. We waited a long time, and it feels good for it to be "out" to the world. Our friends and family already knew, along with anyone who has seen me in the past couple of months, but facebook is different. 

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